enna Posted March 30, 2015 Report Share Posted March 30, 2015 For Those in Early Grief ~ not sure where to add this post since it deals with all grief so I'm putting it under Living with Loss. We have heard these things before but sometimes it is good to hear them from those of us who have been where you are now. Most of our journeys are the same in one way yet so very different. We have each one of us wailed, said how unfair to be left alone, felt the loneliness of our friends, family and co-workers leave us in our grief long before we were ready. There is no right or wrong way to travel your journey of grief. Whatever you are doing is the right way. Time does not dictate to us when we should be “over” our grief ~ there is NO time limit on grief. One day you think you are just fine and then you hit the cookie aisle in the grocery store and lose it. There will be “triggers” along your journey for the rest of your life. That is NORMAL. You are not sick ~ you are grieving. Most people we encounter are really good and have good intentions when offering a hand during our grief. Those we think are insensitive are really not ~ they perhaps are struggling with what to say or do to help us. We will take these actions as cold and hurtful, but it is not about our grief rather it is just how that person is. It is OK to be hurt and to feel alone and to think no one understands us. This is all part of being human and we can only do the best we can. Do not be afraid to reach out for the help you need on this journey. Death tears us apart and can suck the life right out of us. It is NORMAL to shut down for a while ~ remember that what has happened to you is the worst thing you have experienced and you will deal with it in your own time. It does not matter what our loss is. The loss of a loved one or a precious pet is a loss that tear us to pieces. We need time to work on this and come to terms with what has happened to us. Grief work takes work. We must do our part to understand what has happened. Reading about loss, working with a grief counselor, and sharing our stories about our losses are ways we deal with our new lives. Grief changes us and it is up to us to recognize that this will happen and do something about it. Be gentle with yourself. Accept where you are at this time. I can guarantee that by being here whether you are reading or posting will help you on your journey. Those of us here will not tire of hearing your stories. We understand. Anne Treat yourself as kindly as you would a child. Grieving is hard work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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