My Memory Is Horrible!

[LoriM]

I am really getting worried here. I woke up this morning with things to do, and I am so foggy brained. I walk around from place to place and keep self-talking to myself what exactly I am suppose to do. I am so overwhelmed and I have so many things to do. If grief isn't bad enough. I really don't know what to do that will make me think clearly. Vitamins, meditation, exercise, what? I can't even sit still. Would getting on a antidepressant help? I feel so stupid and I just want more than ever to hide. I have time today to get things done without the kids and I am just pacing and have done nothing in three hours. It took me forever to clean the kitchen. I need to organize my calendar so I don't keep missing appointments, but I can't. I can't ask for help because most of the stuff that needs to be done is something that I need to do (go to the bank, deal with insurance companies, sell the truck, go to DMV, ETC). I am so tearful. I couldn't remember something very important and I just couldn't find it anyhere in my brain, nothing that connected to it so I could remember. I am going crazy.

[Froggie4635]

Lori...

I have begun to call it Swiss cheese brain. As long as I stick to things I do every day, I function okay. Let something come up that is different or stressful, and my focus is gone. I also wander around the house from room to room...with three dogs in tow. I have been working to get the car legal, so I can 're-finance. I am having issues because I don't drive and my credit has taken hits because of all the extra expenses and half the income. Stress and grief do not mix.

[kayc]

I find it helps to write things down as they occur in your brain, that way you can remind yourself of things you'd forget. I had a boss once that kept a tape recorder by his bed so as he thought of things during the night he could speak it into the mike and then let it go.

Part of the problem is the brain takes a huge hit with such a loss, and on top of it you get overwhelmed with all of the extra things to do, just when you can least think! If there's someone you can enlist to help keep you on track, that'd be good too (friend, family member).