Still In Counselling

[jame57]

After mum died a year ago I started seeing a counsellor 6 weeks later. Initially this was free but since February I pay a small amount for weekly sessions. I'm finding it really helps but have started worrying there must be something really wrong with me if I'm still having to see them. I know I'm in a mess emotionally and finding things tough still but is it unusual to still need counselling at this stage? Apart from the counsellor and this forum I'm going through this hell alone.

[kayc]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, James. You are a caring person that has empathy and of course this is hitting you hard, you've suffered the loss of someone you're close to, you can't expect to be over it within months. I'm still here after ten years losing my husband! There's nothing wrong with getting help or wanting to walk your journey with someone who understands and can help you through it. It's better to seek help when needed than try to do it alone and struggle.

[jame57]

Thank you once again Kayc. This roller coaster journey of mine is rather bumpy at the moment. A well-meaning work colleague today remarked "it's all about moving on".... thankfully I expect such advice now but just ignore it or say "if only it were like that". We know the truth.....even if it's hard to take on board at times.

Hope you're ok?

[kayc]

I feel like laughing at anyone who tells us to "move on". They clearly don't get it. Let them live on in their ignorant bliss!