Sixth Sense?

[debi.williams]

I have read everyone's posts on this site and gained so much comfort since the sudden death of my beloved husband 5 weeks ago. I was talking to our son last night and he reminded me of something. The morning of the day he died my husband followed me from room to room (we were always joined at this hip but this was unusual) so much so that I jokingly called him 'my little stalker' He also said some pretty significant but random things a few hours before he died that will always stay with me.

I was wondering whether you or your loved one did or said anything unusual before they passed? Did you or your loved one have any kind of 'sixth sense' that something was about to happen?

I am not saying that my husband's words and actions were a sixth sense, but now I have had time to reflect, and on talking with our 15 year old son, we have to admit they were pretty out of the ordinary. 

I would love to hear from you if anything similar or unusual took place.....

 

[scba]

Dear Debbie, I didn't have such experience. On the contrary. I've spent a year looking for those type of signals with no result. My only advice is don't let them become a source of guilt, as if you should have "known or seen" that the end was close. This happened to me and on top of everything I felt I failed him, like a mother who didn't realized her son was sick.

 

[debi.williams]

Dear Scba, I totally take your point and don't worry I am not looking back and trying to spot things that were not there as you are right, this in itself is unhealthy and can be a tremendous source of guilt.

What I was wondering is if anyone had experienced genuinely different behaviour - in terms of what was said or indicated -  from their loved ones in the hours leading up or whether there were any dreams and perhaps premonitions? My son and I commented shortly after my husband and his dad passed that his behaviour several hours before had been certainly different to his norm. I am not referring to any symptoms of what was to come as he was his usual 'healthy' self more to do with what he said and did.

[MartyT]

I don't know the answer to your question, Debi, but you're certainly not the first person to ask. You might try Googling "premonition of one's own death" to see what comes up for you . . .

[KarenK]

Debi,

This is not quite the same, but my husband had a "sixth sense" involving tragedy with family members. In the beginning , I scoffed somewhat but after many incidents that evolved during the 41 years of our marriage, I became a believer.. He described it as a huge feeling of dread washing over him followed shortly(within a week) by the event. He was saddened and frustrated as he could not tell who or what was to happen. Unfortunately, he was "right on the money" each time. I do remember him looking at our daughter on her porch as we left KY. from vacation in 2006. He simply looked at me and said "Debbie has cancer". I don't know why as she seemed perfectly healthy, but 2 years later, she was diagnosed with Colon Cancer, so go figure.

During his last week, he said some odd things but I simply attributed them to the many pain meds. Many times he did say "You're gonna miss me when I'm gone". Given the severity of his illness and many other medical issues, it was not beyond comprehension that he was right. I don't really think it was insight into his impending death, just reality.

I still cry when I hear "You're Gonna Miss Me When I'm Gone" by Brooks and Dunne.

Take care,

Karen

[kayc]

I sure didn't see anything coming, I was blindsided...yet looking back, it seems like he did get some things in order, but then he was always thinking of me, so I don't know.  I don't think he had any idea until the night before he died.  He didn't even tell me he was in the hospital...I was away with my sisters when he went in.

[Froggie4635]

There were some things that happened that looking back looked like Mark had a subconscious idea his time had come. Especially something he posted on Facebook that really sounded like a goodbye to his friends. 

 

 

[iPraiseHim]

It is interesting your shared comments/ I had no warning, no signs or apprehension. It was a total shock when I came home and found my wife passed away while I was at work.  Her death was so sudden that her doctors, the dialysis center, everyone were shocked when they were told.  I'm still in shock.  Shalom 

[Ricky]

The morning my Andre passed away, a bit over 6 weeks ago, I did not notice behaviour that was out of the ordinary, however I am not sure what happened within the 1.5 hours that he was alone at home before the aneurysm ruptured in his brain. I often wonder what he was thinking when he called the ambulance and if he knew what was going to happen and how bad the situation was..

This is not quite related to your question but my mum is certain that she could sense when her brother passed away.. Her brother was a carpenter and fell off a roof while he was at work. My mum told me that she felt this unexplainable pain in her chest the afternoon it happened (she was always healthy and never experienced this before). About two hours or so after the accident her family was informed that the son/brother had an accident and passed away. The co-workers later told the family the time he fell from the roof, which was exactly the same time my mother had chest pain.. 

 

[debi.williams]

Dear Karen, That is what I meant. On the morning of my Mother's death I woke up (she was 82 but my son had spoken to her the night before and all was normal) feeling like something was wrong. I felt almost ill.  In my head I heard my mother's words from childhood I guess, saying ' have a nice warm bath. It will cure all that ails you' so I did, very conscious of her words. 3 hours later I received a call from her friend who had found her passed on her bedroom floor in another country. Mum was in UK me in Belgium.

The day my husband died he followed me around, room to room and I made a joke of it. 'I have a stalker' Alas I did not have any feeling of anything other than 'normal' That is why I posed the question. It sounds like your husband ,Karen, had a true sixth sense. That something wasn't right, that he had a sense of what was to come. That he couldn't say who/what/when/why for sure doesn't lessen that. Karen, please forgive me but is Debbie (my namesake) ok?

During his last hours my husband said 'Please protect Max (our son) as this continent (Europe) is rotten'. There I have said it verbatim. We were driving in the car less than 2 hours before. Normally I would have said 'And you?' he is Our son to protect but for some strange unfathomable reason I replied with ' I never take my eyes of OUR son' He said 2 other things too that resonate and are just as surprising as that. Out of the blue;

I know this has been a controversial question for me to ask so please all of you that have found it as such, know it came from a good place. 

Thanks Marty I will Google.

[debi.williams]

My Dear Kayc, Had he had any idea of what was to come he would have found a way to let you know. I am sure of that. The love you had together shines out of you. 

Ipraisehim, You will  be still in such shock and rightly so. This is a trauma and an assault to your senses. Everything that was 'normal' is now no longer. Your experience is the same as my mum's when my father passed. She too came home from work and found him on the kitchen floor. He was 66. I don't think the shock ever really leaves you. I wish I could say otherwise and comfort you. Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone and although we know what atrocities go on in the world we somehow feel we are different. It won't happen that way to us, but it does and it has. My heart goes out to you. 

My dear Ricky, my husband was able to speak quite a few sentences to me and I know Andre and my husband passed from the same. I go over and over in my head how was that possible, he was able to ask me for aspirin, then sugar, tell me not to call and ambulance' not yet, not yet' and then give me the number to call. So Andre, I have no doubt was lucid for quite some time. I don't know if this is a comfort in any way but my husband -a very emotional and sensitive man - did not panic in any way. No screaming, no hysteria, in fact very calm. He simply looked confused as to what was happening to him but not in a distressed way. 

Your talking about your mum and her brother is totally related to my question and I thank you for it. I think, many times, that bonds are so strong that you do 'feel' when someone is in trouble. I totally believe your mum knew something was wrong. I originally asked the question because of the somewhat random things my lovely husband came out with on his last day. Uncharacteristically so. I feel that we sometimes get warnings but being so very human, we choose to ignore them. I know for sure animals know, so I was wondering if it is possible we do also.

I want to share with you a lovely email I received from a French speaker whom I have known for some time. He almost died at the age of 30 (he is 58 now) and is a famous speaker here in Belgium. I have been teaching him English for some time

 

My dear Debi,

 

I'm so sorry for you and for your son. I don't know what to say to relieve your grief. I believe that we are not human beings trying to make a spiritual experience but spiritual beings coming on earth to have a human experience. So in my view we never really die. Of course our soul leaves our terrestrial body to continue the journey in other dimensions in an endless flight to the light. This believe helps me when I lose a loved person. So from the bottom of my heart I wish your husband a luminous flight.

Please accept my deepest sympathy.

 

Warm regards

 

Guibert 

 

[debi.williams]

Dear Maryann, It is extraordinary sometimes when we look back. Maybe Mark as you said had a 'subconscious' nudge of what was to come and wanted to make everything good with his friends.I don't think we should search for signs that any of our loved ones knew what was to come, I think it becomes more obvious when we look back after the event.  It sounds as though, from your words, it is possible Mark was driven to leave his friends with something concrete of his love for them. 

When my husband and I spoke about this subject, there were several people's passing we discussed, my husband was very open to the fact that some people 'knew'.