Travel without them

[Dew's Girl]

I've been thinking that I'd like to do a bit of traveling and see new places next year, but the thought of going without Daniel is overwhelming.

I don't necessarily want to travel with friends and be the third wheel.  I looked for some widowed persons cruise or trip but couldn't find anything.  My thought was at least those who have lost a partner would understand if I get teary on vacation.

All I could find was singles cruises which in my mind is for a completely different purpose.  I'm not wanting to hook up with someone.

I just to have some understanding company and companionship while traveling.  Have you guys had any luck or have tips for this?  Or are interested in starting our own travel group?

[Guest]

One of the ladies in my support group, a eighty-something-old firecracker who left Germany shortly after World War II, grabbed a backpack, hopped on a plane and spent three weeks trekking around Deutschland exploring old roots, by herself.  This was five months after her husband died. She had the time of her life and was able to come back with a different perspective on her grief.  Prior to leaving she had not cried once for her loss.  On return she has had many good cries and is relieved that she can grieve.

My suggestion is go for it.  Possibly sign up for a tour or two and you may meet others who you have much to share with.  

[scba]

I don't know about travel groups unfortunately. On the other hand I live on the other side of the world, otherwise I would have loved to start a travel group.

[WolfsKat]

15 hours ago, Dew's Girl said:

I just to have some understanding company and companionship while traveling.  Have you guys had any luck or have tips for this?  Or are interested in starting our own travel group?

I would very much like such a travel group.....my Connor and I loved to be "madcap traveling bohemians" (his quote)......but now I feel as though our shared travel adventures are all I will ever have. Most all I know are "paired up" and damned if I will ever feel like I am a 5th wheel or a pity-tagalong.

[kayc]

The whole world of travel seems so far removed from my world where I have nothing but financial constraints and struggle and responsibility.  I look at my little sister's pictures of her travel and cruises on Facebook and it doesn't seem real to me.  My world is about hauling firewood, chopping kindling, shoveling snow, and taking my dog to the vet.  It's about driving 50 miles away to get groceries.  It's anything but glamorous.  But my world is beautiful, and the view of the elk and deer are free.  I enjoy seeing foxes and wild rabbits dart across the way or hearing an owl hooting up in my trees.  At least I don't have to pay to go somewhere for that.

[kevin]

My plan is to head on down to Yuma next year, drive through the Canyon and West Coast it back.......I'll bring my Golf Gear and play it by ear. I'm sure within a year I will run into somebody who wants to do the same thing.......this is all bucket list stuff now

[Guest]

Kayc

We both live in vacation destination spots so travel takes on a different connotation.  Since we moved here twenty-eight years ago; no matter where we travelled to, no matter how beautiful it was where we went, we were always glad to come home to our own slice of paradise.  I will miss the excitement in Deedo's eyes as we would pull into our loop with the Ponderosa towering over us.  She loved her cabin. She loved the deer and the elk and the wild horses and the bear and the bunnies.  It is a wonderful way to live, isn't it?

[WolfsKat]

9 hours ago, kayc said:

The whole world of travel seems so far removed from my world where I have nothing but financial constraints and struggle and responsibility.  I look at my little sister's pictures of her travel and cruises on Facebook and it doesn't seem real to me.  My world is about hauling firewood, chopping kindling, shoveling snow, and taking my dog to the vet.  It's about driving 50 miles away to get groceries.  It's anything but glamorous.  But my world is beautiful, and the view of the elk and deer are free.  I enjoy seeing foxes and wild rabbits dart across the way or hearing an owl hooting up in my trees.  At least I don't have to pay to go somewhere for that.

That sounds beautiful, Kay......a lot of people travel just to visit places such as where you live! Hey, perhaps you should consider becoming a mini B&B......wildlife photographers would love such a location.....and you could make a bit of money!

[kayc]

WolfsKat, if I had a decent house, I might consider that! 

Brad, Yes, it is a wonderful way to live.  If I ever have to leave here, I'm going to have a hard time adjusting. I won't miss shoveling snow though, ha ha!
 

Don't get me wrong, travel sounds wonderful, but it's not an option for me right now.  I did get to go abroad when I was young and that was a wonderful experience.  I have a sister that is a world traveler, she goes someplace different every year (Spain, England, Africa, Hawaii, Bahamas, you name it!).  I guess I have to live vicariously through her.