harlequin

Kate,

I apologize, I called Harlequin a girl! HE still sounds very sweet and silly, and I am so sorry that you are missing your best friend!

Eliza

Hi Eliza,

Thank you so much for your kind words, they mean so much to me. You would have loved Harl, he had such character! Like most men, he never could stand tears; when I cried he'd give me a disgusted look and run away.

I'm trying to laugh for his sake. My friends have been very supportive which helps.

I'm very sorry for your loss as well. God bless you.

Kate

Kate, i am so sorry you had to have your Harlequin put to sleep. my heart truely goes out to you. i know all to well what that is like. oct 28th i had to have my mokie put to sleep. she was 22 years old and my life.we to were expecting her to go. she wasn't doing well in her last days but still you are never ready. it don't matter how yound or old they are. even though i have other cats and dogs mokie was my life and my world revolved around her every need. i can still see her sleeping in her favorite chair. still setting by the fridge waiting for something to eat. i strain to hear her voice. she would carry around one favorite toy and meow around the house with it.

your routine will stay with you for quite some time.

i know since its just happened that you don't want to do anything but i want to encourage you to seek help and support at this time. it makes a world of difference BELIEVE ME. your heart is breaking, I KNOW, and that is ok. we all grief differently. don't let anyone tell you your making a big deal out of this.

i have gotten some relief and help with different grief sites, chat rooms and friends and even went to a petloss support group. find what ever works for you and DO it. even if you can't talk about it, write about it. that is all i could do when i first lost my smokey. i met someone on this site in paticular and we are supporting each other through email. we have never met face to face but we have an incrediable bond now since we both are going through the grief of loosing our cats at the same time.

i want to tell you things get better in time. but for me time doesn't matter. last night i had a break down and could do NOTHING except cry my eyes out. what every you do, do what you need to do for YOU.

please know your on my heart and prayers. i also have the comfort that my mokie is in heaven and i WILL see her again. God promised. but for now i am only human and still hurt for my mokie. i hope for you in time you will find another kitty to love and cherish. for me i don't know if i can get another one since smokey was such a part of my family of animals here. i guess time will tell on that one. God Bless You at this time. Jean

Hi Jean,

My sympathies on the loss of smokie, she sounded like a sweetheart! Thank you so much for your encouraging words, I'm holding on to everything I can at this point. It helps to go to work and have my friends around me. I joined a pet loss group last night. What lovely kind people and so understanding.

God bless you.

Kate

My deepest sympathies on the loss of your dog. I had to put my cat to sleep this Saturday, 12-03, and feel very much the way you do. His name was Harlequin and he was 10 years old. He had kidney disease since this July. He fought like the trooper that he was until the end. I can't believe he's gone. He was my best friend and it helped having him here when I had to put my cat Bagherra to sleep 3 years ago. Now I have no one, and since I live alone it's very difficult to deal with. The depression is brutal.

All I can say is...please try to hang in there! Hopefully life will get better for us someday.