My sister died April 28, 2010 from ARDS. She was 27. She contracted H1N1 influenza which progressed to pneumonia and then to ARDS. She was heavily sedated/unconscious and on a ventilator for seven weeks, having being admitted to ICU on March 10th and placed on vent immediately that night. For a brief while it looked as if she might be getting better but then took a bad turn and was placed on inhaled nitric oxide for most of the remainder of her illness. The ordeal of watching her suffer thru this and watching my elderly parents have to suffer as well, still leaves me feeling numb and when not numb, angry. I know my sister is in Heaven and take comfort in that assurance, but just do not understand why this had to happen to her.
I just wanted to reach out and let you know I am going through a similar situation. My 29 year old brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer on February 10th, 2010 and given one month to live. He passed away on March 13, 2010. They sent him home from the hospital to die in his tiny apartment. He signed himself into hospice and his girlfriend, my mom, my stepdad and I were there for the whole month watching my brother go through mental and physical misery. We stayed strong for my brother and looking back on it, feels like we were completely numb and in a fog. I am having a hard time dealing with those times of suffering both for my brother and my family. I, too, want to be comforted by the fact that he's in heaven and not suffering anymore but I'm so angry that he had to suffer at all! He wasn't even given the opportunity to fight the disease - just pure surrender to death. It's an awful part of life. I hope you are finding answers and peace with this forum. take care
Recent Death Of Little Sister
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I just wanted to reach out and let you know I am going through a similar situation. My 29 year old brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer on February 10th, 2010 and given one month to live. He passed away on March 13, 2010. They sent him home from the hospital to die in his tiny apartment. He signed himself into hospice and his girlfriend, my mom, my stepdad and I were there for the whole month watching my brother go through mental and physical misery. We stayed strong for my brother and looking back on it, feels like we were completely numb and in a fog. I am having a hard time dealing with those times of suffering both for my brother and my family. I, too, want to be comforted by the fact that he's in heaven and not suffering anymore but I'm so angry that he had to suffer at all! He wasn't even given the opportunity to fight the disease - just pure surrender to death. It's an awful part of life. I hope you are finding answers and peace with this forum. take care