pattysmooth

It will be two years next month since my mom died and I miss her so much. We were so close and it seems like only yesterday we were doing things together, spending time enjoying the company of people we loved and just being happy. Some times I'm anxious to talk to her or tell her something and shes not there. I don't know if it will ever get any better. When they say there is no one like your mother there is nothing more truthful than that. I missed her at Christmas but tried to enjoy the holiday because of others. It will never be the same. I know she wants me to go on but how do you when you miss someone so much. I sometimes dream of her and when I see her she's always smiling. I often say to her in the dream when will we be together again. But she says I am always with you. I just miss seeing her alive and with me. Missing Mom. Pattysmooth

I know how you feel losing your mother if very hard. I lost my Mom and it hurts terribly. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Know that she with you. Pattysmooth

Today is a year since my mom died and I am feeling terribly sad. I don't feel much like eating and I keep thinking about that last day I was with her and feel so bad. She was going downhill but you never really know when its going to happen to someone so close to you. When you lose someone you love it hurts so bad and I feel like crying and crying. I wish I could just see her for a short time to tell her how much I love her. I know its going to be like this but I will continue to miss her and be sad.

Deb didn't get a chance to go to the graveyard. It would have been too painful to put something on her grave. I just couldn't this year. Was very depressed on Christmas eve as we always opened gifts and she was so happy. I spent Christmas with other family members so that helped but felt bad that she was gone. Cried over the week and theres no getting over it. How are you? Hope you are doing okay. All we can do is remember there watching over us. Hugs.

Hi to all I am feeling sad christmas is not far away and this will be the first without Mom. I know its going to be hard because I always decorated and made it so nice for her and dont feel like doing it now. At night I cry when I think of the past days and there will be no more holidays with her. Her death is still so fresh. Missing mom at home. Pattysmooth

I like all the nice things that have been put on the site. I am looking for a grief counselor or a bereavement group to join. They say being with others helps a lot when you can talk about it. Don't know if I can or not but its worth a try. I liked the one poem I read. Don't remember who put it on but lots of thanks to you. One day at a time one step at a time and you get there our mothers are watching over us. God bless to all.

Hello I thank everyone who responded about my birthday. It was very much appreciated as I was havinga difficult day and your kind words and thoughts were very much appreciated.

Having a birthday without your mother for the first time is difficult but you try to get through it

I miss her terribly but I know she is in a better place and looking down on me. I have try to remember all the good memories of past birthdays we shared. Keep in touch with me. Hugs.

Marty, I would like to know when someone adds you as a friend how does that work on this site. Since I am fairly new to this- thought I would ask. Also I appreciate the nice message you sent me some time back. How do I add someone as a friend if I would like to. Let me know. Thank you.

Hello to everyone today is my birthday and I am missing my mom. It is the first birthday I have spent without her and it hurts not to have her here. I know death is a natural progression after life but it hurts so bad when you lose someone you were with so long. Trying to remember all the birthdays we shared together helps but I'm crying because my best friend is gone and won't be here for any more. I look at the place she always sat in and remember what she said and it makes me feel bad. It is hard to let go of someone who was such a large part of your life and move on. I know there are so many of you that are going through the same thing and it feels so bad like you don't know when it will ever end. Some people say it helps to talk to the one you lose but I feel so bad and want to know how some of you have dealt with a first birthday or something special without your mother. Please let me know. Its been a bad day and I have been so sad. Hurting so much.

Hi I'm having a really bad day. Miss my mother terribly wish she was here to talk to. My birthday is coming up soon and I don't feel like I really want to do anything. Sometimes I feel like things will never be like they should be because I'm alone. I try to go on but its hard. I know I need to talk to others but don't want to. I feel like it may never get to where I can feel okay again. Please let me hear from others going through the same thing. Its so hard.

I am missing my Mom so much as I am going through a rough time the last couple of days and it makes it harder being alone. Would like to talk to someone who has gone through the same thing.

to misswavy thanks so much for adding me to your friends list. I lost my mother in February and since I was her caregiver I'm alone now and some days are so hard to get through. This is something new for me and it would be nice to be able to talk to someone who understands and it sounds like you can and I would like to hear how you are doing. Keep in touch. Hugs.

I miss my Mom very much. Last wednesday was her birthday. I cried because it was the first time I wasn't with her to celebrate it. I know she is at peace and not in any pain but I miss her terribly and wish for fifteen minutes to just talk to her or tell her how much I loved her. It hurts so bad and I know I have to go on but no one can take her place. Please someone tell me how you cope with the loss when a birthday or holiday comes up.

Kansas thanks for your advice on what to do when you lose your Mother. I miss my mom so much and people say well be glad you had her for so long and she lived a long life but they don't understand that it still hurts just as much. I talked to my Mom all the time and shared things with her and now I am alone. I miss having her to talk to and that's the hardest part of it. I think it takes a long time to get through losing your mom she is your best friend and buddy and you can't replace that. I hope that I can find some things to do that will ease the pain I feel. Please keep in touch with me. This is a new site I am trying to connect with others who know how it feels.

Ilost my mother this year and I was her caretaker. We were very close and I am 54. I lived with her all of my life. I am trying to deal with the grief and sadness but it is so hard. I would like to talk to anyone who is going through the same thing. I live alone now and its hard not having someone to talk to about it. I miss her so much.

I lost my mother six months ago and she was 91. I was her caretaker the last 4 years of her life. I have stayed in the family home my whole life. I wrote a post here the other week but I hadn't figured out the site yet. So some replies went to my e-mail,but I wasn't able to reply. Someone fixing my computer erased them all before I could read them. I want you to know that they were much appreciated. I really miss my mother and I have periods where I get feeliing very depressed because we were together for such a long time in the same house that I am in now. My therapist is telling me to go out and meet people but I just don't feel like and really don't how to. Because my mom was my best friend I really didn't feel the need to. I'm lucky to figure out this website. Writing how I feel to strangers is all I can handle right now. Does any of this sound like you. Maybe it was a year ago for you so how did you go on?

I lost my Mom on May 28, 2010. She was 91. Sometimes people think the right thing to say is that "you are lucky you had her for so long" as though my grief shouldn't be as deep because she was older. Even though she wasn't able to be the Mom that she was to me in her younger days anymore she was still my Mom and I miss her. Is nearly two months still pretty fresh in the grieving process?

One of my brothers got re-married just three weeks after Mom passed away and it

seems as though he is moving on rather easily. However, I am the one left to go through all of her things alone. He lives several states away. He had offered to arrange for the grave marker but he even bailed on that. And now he and his new wife are going on vacation.

Our dad passed away 45 years ago. My husband has been very supportive, as have my kids, for which I am very grateful. It's just so hard when a person feels like all of the responsibility falls on them.

Our other brother has totally distanced himself from us for the last 20 years and he chose not to participate in the funeral or provide support in any way. He also lives several states away. In fact, when I called him with the news of Mom's passing his reply was, "well, we knew it was going to happen sometime."

I had asked the rest home where she lived the past four years if they had any mail delivered for her there. They insisted they didn't then just this week someone called and said, oh by the way, we do have some mail here. There was a thick stack and that was just July. Who knows what happened to June's mail. So the other night, there I sat opening her mail and crying my eyes out. I didn't think earlier to have her mailing address changed to my address but I did that now.

All the little reminders are what get to me. Mom's birthday was on July 4th. That's a very hard day to commerate quietly. I did light a candle at Mass for Mom that weekend.

I've been told what I'm feeling is normal but I have made an appointment with a grief counselor for next week. I'm hoping that will help me work through some issues. My medical doctor prescribed a month's worth of Xanax and it does help calm me down and helps me sleep but I know I can't take it long-term.

I think I just need others to talk to who have been in similar situations. As the youngest in my family and with both of my parents gone the future frightens me just a little. I know that sounds silly; I have a husband, two children, two grand-children, and a good job. I'm an adult but my Mom was always there, no matter in what capacity. I've been trying hard to remember the good and happy things but some days I'm more successful at that than other days.

Then there are days when I feel guilty that I didn't do more for her. I constantly think, I should have done this for Mom or I should have taken Mom here. No matter how much I did I still think of what I didn't do. Does anyone else feel that way?

Sorry this so long. This my first post here. I was glad to have found this site.

Hi Im trying this out. I lost my mother this year and I am living alone for this first time and I am 55. Anyone out there like me?