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Cat lady: My mom died in November of last year all holidays are hard for me. I know mother's day will be, mom's birthday and a few other's.

I hope you are doing alright. Candy

Hi Anne: I am sorry for the loss of your mother too. I lost my mother suddenly also in November 2010. I am still feeling what you are feeling. No time is a good time to lose any mother. I thought my mom would be around for a bit longer also. My whole family is a mess after her loss. I wished she was still here with us but, somehow God needed her more. Miss her dearly.

I have just lost my Mom, she was 80, on January 4th and still cannot believe it is true. I am having the worst time trying to clean out her apartment but am managing short stints with at least one day in between visits. I want to call her to talk to her about any little thing because she was always there for me and we always talked daily. I feel so lost and alone. I am an only child and my father passed 11 years ago. I cannot sleep and so I found this site in the hopes of finding others who know what it is to lose their Mom.

Hi Cat_Lady: I Am sorry for your loss and I know how u feel. I lost my mother on 11-5-2010 and it is just

as hard now as it was then. You can talk to me if you need someone to talk to i will listen..I hope things get better for you soon.

Every day is difficult if you are self-employed and work from home as I do - I wish I could go out to a job, but then I'd have to return to an empty home anyway.

HI nicholas I am self employed also lost my mother it is really hard. I am on here if you ever need to talk Candy

I agree that nights and weekends are the worst. After almost a year I still cry on my way from home from work. The nights and weekends were our time together. We couldn't go out much the last few months but just staying home, enjoying each others company was ok with us. I sure do miss that!!

Chris

Chris I am here if you ever want to talk. Candy

I agree that nights and weekends are the worst. After almost a year I still cry on my way from home from work. The nights and weekends were our time together. We couldn't go out much the last few months but just staying home, enjoying each others company was ok with us. I sure do miss that!!

Chris

Chris, I am sorry for your loss and if you ever need to talk I am here. Candy

Usually losts to do during the week but the weekends are so long and lonely.

No one seems to bother anymore it is almost 4 months since I lost my husband. Why do they leave us alone (our family and friends?

I just heard "My Heart Will Go On" by Celine Dion and cried once again..

It is so lonely!

I am sorry for your loss, If you ever need to talk I am here.. Candy

Hi I lost my mother and it is the same here no one wants to talk about it anymore. It isnt over for me tho. If anyone would like to talk I am here anytime..

I will help if I can

Hi Sorry for your loss. I just lost my mom to on 11-5=2010. Really hard on my family too.

I have alot of feelings like you also that I am workling through. Read some good books and got on line to look through some

stuff also. I feel alone at times and my whole family is so angry and argue all the time. mom would of never

wanted this and I know she is disappointed in all of us.

Miss her dearly and this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. Never lost anyone before this close to me.

Thanks, I can't talk to any of my half sisters and brothers right now they are angry the most. Their dad is still alive but, are more angry than all 6 of us. i don't see why they still have one parent.

I would like to say thank you to the messages posted here it does help to know that I am not alone in my feelings although it is so terribly sad to think that many other elderly parents and thier family are having to cope with the ordeal. I pray that maybe by making that complaint heard it could improve the care given by the people we trust to care for our mothers and fathers. Thank you again for words of comfort x

Your welcome yorky

My mom was a mother, a friend , a wife, a grand mother, great grand mother, a sister, and she had alot of good qualities..

Until the last of her death she never learned to say I love you..I am so glad she did and got the chance to tell us all she loved us.

She was the mother of ten kids..And is sadly missed by all.

I have alot of unleft things to say and never will get the chance to say them, some unanswered question..

I loved her then and still do..

Hi: My mom died November 5th, 2010 and my family is a mess too..

She was the clue that held our family together.

I am so disappointed and know my mother would not like us all to be so seperated.

She was married twice 6 kids with my dad and 4 with her husband now who is still aliveThe two families are seperated and step father thinks its ok.

My mom never did. One family is her motto. Hurts me that he does this. The 6

of us try to visit step father and when we do he has his nose in tv and barely talks to us.

When his kids are there he talks and all. We were all raised by him..

Yorky:

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my mom on November 5th, 2010.

It was a sad day for my whole family and it is hard for us all to cope also.

Alot of anger going on here now and hurtful things when we should be pulling

together and holding each other close.

My mother was married twice and half brothers and sisters have

seperated with their father who is still alive.

Even tho we have known him longer than his kids he treats us bad like we don't exist.

It is very hurtful but, nothing has

been the same since she's been gone.

My family made a quilt out of some of my mother's clothing..It helped my sister alot..To deal with the loss of our mother.

My family is so angry right now and lash out at evry word or comment. Can't barley discuss the loss of mom without negativity. How does every deal with this?

Lisa, Thank you and I am sorry for your loss too. I am so hurt by soem of the things my family is doing so much anger..I miss mom and we all knew this was gonna happy. Just hurts even more,,

Becka,

Sorry for your loss too. My family is so out of control right now, anger is where they are now, lash out at everything. There is 11 of us and it has been so hard...Sometimes I feel like I just want to crawl under a rock..

Kathy61, Thank you for your kind words. Everyone on here has helped me so much..

grace10,

I am sorry for your loss too. So hard to lose the most important person in your life.. I miss her dearly..Use to have coffee with her a few times a week, just lived next door to me..

Niamh,

Thank you This is so hard..I miss her so much. She lived next door to me and just to see her house everyday makes me cry!

Thank you for your kind words. It helps..

Anthony, what a wonderful idea. And what a beautiful picture. Maybe I'll try and write a holiday greeting too. Thanks Nancy

ANTHONY YOUR PICTURE WAS BEAUTIFUL..

I am new to this so here goes.. I just lost my mom 11-5-2010..

My family is a mess over this.

Everyone is hurting and no one to help.

I don't know what to do..Holidays were awful

everyone cried so much. How does everyone cope?

Hi: I know how you are feeling, just lost my mom on November 5th, 2010. Still can't beleive it's real sometimes.

Miss her so much. Nothing was the same and my family aches for her so much..I have friends and all too just don't feel the same..