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I am struggling to come to terms with the loss of my parents 18days apart.

My mum came to help me in Scotland after the birth of my 3rd child and after 2 months of me giving birth she fell ill unexpectedly and needed emergency cardiac surgery. She died in ICU a few hours later on the 07/08/11

It was very very painfull and I was struggling with her death and the grieving process. We had mum cremated and I carried her ashes back to South africa to my family. It was traumatic and I think I just blocked it out on the trip.

I had just arrived back from South Africa with my 3 young kids and husband.

Then, my dad died suddenly of a massive heart attack on the 25/08/11 He was heart broken.

Family are wanting to raise funds for me to go back home but the trauma is to much for me I dont think I can bear to see my dad buried

Friends and family do not know what to say to me. Both my parents were 70yrs old and their loss is enormous for me. They were goin to be married for 49yrs next week Thursday. I called dad everyday even on the day he died he told me he was fine. The shock of his sudden death is too much for me and antidepressants appear to numb me

Hope I can attend a grieving couselling session asap

I'm feeling so very, very sad. My mother passed away on June 24th of this year and then my father passed away on July 11th. It's been so unreal and I don't think it has really hit me yet. I didn't really have a chance to deal with Mom's death and then Dad died. I keep waiting for the grief to come, but all I feel is a deep sorrow. I haven't really cried. I had periods where I would break down, but then I would have to stuff it down in order to complete some business regarding the estate or their service. It was nice that we were able to honor them together. My mother had donated her body to science because she had Myasthenia Gravis, so we weren't able to have a funeral for her. We were planning a memorial service when my father contracted aspiration pneumonia. We had a service for him and honored her as well. It was really quite beautiful. I feel so numb and I can't seem to concentrate. I catch myself just staring off into space and I am always taking these deep sighs. I resent that I can't put the rest of the world on hold until I can deal with this and then go back to my life when I can. Life goes on and they would want me to get on with it, but I just don't want to. I don't feel ready to face a world without them.

Dear Their Youngest

I know how you feel and I am struggling to come to terms with the loss of my parents 18days apart.

My mum came to help me with the birth of my 3rd child and after 2 months of e giving birth she fell ill unexpectedly and needed emergency surgery. She died in ICU a few hours later on the 07/08/11 It was very very painfull and I was struggling with her death and the grieving process. I have just arrived back from South Africa with my 3 young kids and husband and my dad died suddenly of a mmassive heart attack on the 25/08/11 He was heart broken. Family are wanting to raising funds for me to go back home but the trauma is to much for me I dont think I bear to see my dad buried

Friends and family do not know what to say to me both my parents were 70yrs old and their loss is enormous for me. They were goin to be married for 49yrs next week Thursday. I called dad everyday even on the day he died he told me he was fine and the shock of his sudden death is too much for me and antidepressants appear to numb me

Hope I can attend a grieving couselling session.