Strength & Orchids

So beautiful! it brought tears to my eyes. I wish that some day these things wont make me cry for my mum, but make me smile because I know she's some place better.

I wish you never forget the special days but just find the strength and closure to feel better on these days good luck with the hypnotherapist and do let us know how it works out..i'd love to know the results as I'm considering visiting one as well.

Wish you the best

-K

Hi Marcia,

I'm sorry about the odd reply yesterday, my phone browser was just not working right.

Im 22, I'm an only child and I lost my mum when I was 3 years old. My grandma helped me grow from the loss and even though it has been very difficult growing up without a mother, I try to remember that she would want me to take the positive from this and she wouldn't want me to drown in this. From time to time I feel miserable and I want her to be here for the milestones in my life (like a mother is supposed to be) but then I tell myself that surely she must be happy when I am happy.

My father still suffers from complicated grief and I understand that he lost his partner, but it's been 19 years..and I wish that he was more available for me. He can't seem to move on from it; he doesn't want to look for love again, his health is being negatively affected and he has cut himself off socially. He lives quite a negative lifestyle and with age and I don't see him making any kind of changes to it. You however still have time..!

I would first like to say that I so admire your ability to even try talking to a counsellor, let alone us strangers about your troubles. That itself is the first step that most grievers can not bring themselves to take. I also suggest using your wonderful family as motivation to try your hardest to bring yourself out of this. Sometimes in my mind I shout at my dad "Just because mama died doesn't mean you're dead too!" (even though I don't have the heart to tell him this out loud). I would hate for your family to think that horrible thought about you. We women bring the emotional strength to a family and you must believe that through talking about your loss and remembering your parents in a positive way, the pain of their passing will fade. You can make your parents proud and in a way keep them with you in your heart by being a wonderful parent to your children.

I have faith that you will come out of this. As you can see we're all here for a chat when you need it

Oh my goodness I shouldn't have tried replying using my mobile phone, I'll get back to you soon as I get home!