amy

I TO LOST MY MOTHER IN SEPTEMBER IT WAS ON THE 26TH 2003. I LIKE YOU AM VERY LOST THE HOLIDAYS ARE VERY HARD BECAUSE OF HER DEATH . I HAVE TWO KIDS A 8YROLD BOY AND 3YR OLD GIRL. AND A GREAT HUSBAND. BUT ALL OF THAT IT IS HARD TO FEEL THE VOID OF MY MOTHERS DEATH. LIKE YOU I'AM TO A CHRISTEN. AND GOD HAS BEEN GOOD TO ME. I'AM 29 YRS OLD AND I TWO FELT TO YOUNG TO HAVE TO BURY MY 51 OLD MOTHER. I WILL HAVE YOU IN MY PRAYERS AND JUST KEEP TRUSTING IN THE LORD TO GET YOU THOUGH. I HAD TO GO TO A CLOSE FRIENDS FUNRAL LAST WEEK AND THE PREACHER SAID WEEPING ONLY LAST FOR THE NIGHT AND JOY WILL COME IN THE MORNING WE HAVE TO HOLD ON TO THINGS LIKE THAT.GOD BLESS AMY

Hi Amy

I think I know how you feel. My mother found she had breast cancer in November 2001. I couldn't belive it quite, and acutally thought most people get better. I was so blazay about it . I went back home for 3 months to be with her over the winter time. I found her attitude really negative and doom and gloom. Although she prayed everyday, I think she was more outraged that God had done this to her.

I on the other hand was so positive. Telling her, and really believing that everything would be fine. After all many women recover from this condition, or so I thought. I left home again and returned to my job. But then she didn't actually get better and died 8 months later.

I got back the night before she died. And I had one last chance to talk to her. I was truly shocked to see her. Her skin was bright yellow since her liver had been affected, and she was unable to move her body. It was quite terrible and started crying on sight. My family were outraged that I reacted this way, and told me to talk about anything but her illness.

You know now in a way I am relieve. Because if I had been with her those 8 months, I'd have seen the whole terrible deteriation. And had to try and make her see the bright side of things the whole time.

Is that really selfish?

I hope you are doing OK about the loss of your mother. I know you have a lot to do with you children and husband and all. I hope you can find time for yourself. And to not feel any guilt about not seeing your mother in that last week. You simply can not be there all the time. And they know we love them.

Fiona

Thanks Shannon and fiona.

Your words helped me ,and also reading what others that are dealling with the same thing that i'am going through . My husband just thinks that i should just go back to normal .But i will never be normal again a part of me is gone and i just have not come to terms with that yet.

thanks again

amy

babette,

Hi my name is amy,

I lost my mother 6 weeks ago today. she went in her sleep very unexpeted she was a dibetic and she had a rare skin diorder in the home of lupas. she had been sick on and off for about 12 yrs but she was just fine the day before pepole in her apt. bulding says so. I had not talk to her in about a week. and it had been a month or two snice i had seen her. All the meds she was on would make her very hard to deal with at times. I am the youngest chlid of 3 and i was the one mama always called on in her life . now i 'am so lost and alone even though i have 2 small kids to take care and a loving husband nothing feels the pain.So if you have any words to help i could use them.

Thanks,

god bless

Amy