Sherbears

Thank you all for your empathy and advice.  I like the journal idea a lot!

Hi Marty,

Thank you so much for your response.  I agree, I think you are right.  I will write a letter!

Sherbears

Hi I'm new to this group.  I found this site doing a search and am glad I found you. 

My granddaughter's first death anniversary is approaching.  She died just one month short of her 1st birthday.  This was a tragedy that has torn my family apart; specifically my daughter and myself.  She feels that I am over-shadowing her need to mourn for her own daughter and wont' give her space to grieve.  It was never intentional, but possibly  that's what I was doing.  It's just my grandchild's death tore me apart and I didn't know how to deal; my only comfort was my need to be with my daughter.  Nonetheless, my daughter and I are barely speaking.  I would like to do something for my daughter to offer some comfort her daughter's death anniversary, since it's probable that we won't be spending this anniversary together.  I thought about a spa day, a basket, flowers.  I'm not sure what to give that is very special.  Any advice would be appreciated. 

Thank you, Sherbears