Thank you for opening up this topic. It's something that I've been thinking a lot about, but didn't have anyone to talk to about it.
My son died just over 2 months ago. He was 49 and lived alone...had a few too many drinks (apparently) and choked during the night of August 8, one day after my 71st birthday.
My present husband is Bruce's (my son's) stepfather. We've been married 7 years and physical intimacy has been somewhat more important to him than to me for the past couple of years, but 4 days after I learned of Bruce's death, even though I was numb and NOT in the mood, i just let it happen. It was our anniversary. I guess I just didn't have the words to say, "It's too soon, I'm frozen"...
It's not really a relationship breaker, I feel disloyal for even sharing this, but also relieved. My husband has been very supportive in so many ways.
Blessings, findingmyway, I would be interested in hearing your story as well.
Intimacy After Loss of a Child
in Loss of an Infant, Child or Grandchild
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Hi findingmyway,
Thank you for opening up this topic. It's something that I've been thinking a lot about, but didn't have anyone to talk to about it.
My son died just over 2 months ago. He was 49 and lived alone...had a few too many drinks (apparently) and choked during the night of August 8, one day after my 71st birthday.
My present husband is Bruce's (my son's) stepfather. We've been married 7 years and physical intimacy has been somewhat more important to him than to me for the past couple of years, but 4 days after I learned of Bruce's death, even though I was numb and NOT in the mood, i just let it happen. It was our anniversary. I guess I just didn't have the words to say, "It's too soon, I'm frozen"...
It's not really a relationship breaker, I feel disloyal for even sharing this, but also relieved. My husband has been very supportive in so many ways.
Blessings, findingmyway, I would be interested in hearing your story as well.
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