On 3/5/2006 at 10:47 AM, Guest Guest_Vivian_* said:
I've had many well meaning people approach me and tell me that they know how I feel because they have suffered the loss of a father or a mother. While suffering the loss of a parent is awful at any time it is so different. My father died when I was fourteen, but I had my siblings and my mother in which to hold on. My mother died this past summer (four months before my husband) at the age of 88 and although I miss her and will always love her, she lived a full life.
Losing ones spouse changes your every day life. It changes your identity to a great extent. Assuming this was a good marriage (and if you are on this site it was good despite any ups and downs one might have had) you find yourself mourning that which has died in you..the secrets confided, the dreams shared.
Unfortunately it is a feeling one cannot know unless one has walked in our shoes. Vivian
Thank you. I totally agree. I just lost my husband of 38 years and the pain I’m feeling now is unlike any other I’ve ever felt. Yes I grieved my father’s death but it didn’t consume me like this.
Losing A Spouse Is Not The Same As Losing A Parent.
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Thank you. I totally agree. I just lost my husband of 38 years and the pain I’m feeling now is unlike any other I’ve ever felt. Yes I grieved my father’s death but it didn’t consume me like this.