kanjay

Dear Kayc I never really thought about the five stages of grief were written for the dying  not the grieving as you have written.  After much thought  I believe it is right.  The five stages have never made much sense to me as grief is such a personal thing.  Thank you for the information. I found it very interesting and informative.  I hope you are well and send peace

I should have said I hope Sadie knows how much she knows how much She is loved. . Not was.  I know I will Sadie again.  I look so forward to our reunion.

You have had enough heartache in your life forever. I have  read many books on grief and they all talk about the five stages of grief.  I feel I am in all the stages at one time.  Sadie taught me so much and I can only pray she knows how very much she was loved.  She changed my life.  It is  almost  six months since Sadie had to go Home.  I know she is happy and pain-free and that is what I have to remember.  Hope you are ok.

Thank you for your very kind words.  I am so very sorry for  the loss of Arlie and your beloved husband.  What you wrote to me has helped me to try to understand  my grief and guilt somewhat better. The video is so touching and of course it brought tears but that is ok.  The articles are helping also. Sadie touched me in a way that I didn't  even know was possible.  She was my gift from God and I was blessed  to be with her 15yr4mo. I pray everyday  to see her again and I know I will.  She was diagnosed with a growth in her chest and the vet mentioned  lymphoma.  We tried 2 medications  and she lived another 10 months.  The evening before she passed she ate a big meal so I thought we were ok. It was that night when she started  downhill.  I knew we would be at the vet the next morning.  The fact that I did not have her in my arms when she passed during the night  is something I will never forgive myself of.   I am so grateful to have had her and  miss her so much.  I know a lot of people don't like to hear pets being called children but she was and is my child.  Thank you so much for listening  to me.

 I lost my soulmate in August 2020.  I can't get beyond how she was looking in my eyes during the day. She passed that night. I walked right passed her as she stared at me as if she knew.  I saw her stare but let it go.  I knew but I don't  know why I didn't  pick her up. I will never forgive myself. That night she was laying on her blankets by my chair. I fell asleep and 15 minutes later I woke and found her 5 feet away and I picked her up she took her last gasp.  I can't  seem to get passed the guilt.  She was a Dachshund.  I miss her so much I ache.