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Thank you so much for the excellent readings.

I am taking it one day at a time. 

I am getting bereavement support and accepting this as a long process we all survive bit by bit.

Understanding that I can only control myself and my choices helps.

Hello again dear forum,

Thanks much for all your kind prayers since the loss of my mother.

My father may not have very long. He thought mom would get better.  He turns 89 shortly and was married to her for 68 years. 

Do you have resources on the widowhood effect or could you reference previous discussions?

I have friends and coworkers who have very elderly parents that died within months of each other. Overwhelming.

Best to you.

Yes it is early! I hope I will be okay too. I have a really supportive boss and coworkers.

But it helps keep me from worrying too much.

Very best.

Hello there,

Now I am back home and back at work and it all feels surreal.

I know I will always grieve my mother. Right now it is hard because I know something serious is going to happen to my father sooner than later. AlAnon and living an hour at a time help.

I am also going to join a bereavement support group here. Reaching out, like this forum, sustains me.

Kay and Marty, you are so very kind. Thank you. I will continue to seek solace here.

Very best.

Hello there,

I am doing okay. Family and friends are very happy my mother met with such a peaceful end. She had no pain. A music therapist from hospice sang heartfelt songs to my mom an hour before she died.

Dad continues a steady downward spiral. Authorities and friends keep an eye on him.

Lots of prayer and friendly connections help.

Very best.

Thanks for the love and kindness.

The memorial mass today for mom was beautiful.

Please keep my family, especially my alcoholic, lost father, in your prayers.

Thanks much for your thoughts and prayers. Mom died this afternoon and it was peaceful. Dad was holding her hand.

They were married 68 years.

God willing his end will be peaceful too.

Hello again,

Your concern and care touch me so much.

My mother does have medical care but in the state we are in only RNs and LPNs can administer morphine besides family members and friends. In the eves and on the weekends there are no RNs or LPNs so besides our small team, I am hiring a nurse to help when needed.

But now that I am here I can tell my precious mother is near the end of her journey. It could be any time. Please keep us in your prayers.

I will continue to use the forum for comfort and the wisdom of others.

Thank you.

Hello dear forum,

My mother is now actively dying so we are headed down to help care for her and administer morphine as needed. I am saying the serenity prayer a lot.

My brother is taking care of my mom. The staff at the facility are wonderful. But no nurses on eves or weekends as it is assisted living. Family and friends administer the morphine then.

My very elderly (almost 89) father is paranoid and spiralling down. He is an alcoholic. Police and Adult Protective Services keep an eye on him. 

Thank you again for prayers and wisdom as we work through this hard hard time one hour at a time.

Hello dear folks,

I accidentally submitted my last entry again. Sorry about that.

I will continue to seek out this forum and site for help and solace in the coming months. 

It helps to read what other people have to say and share my family situation.

Thank you.

Thanks much for the thoughtful reply and resources. My mother seems to be getting closer and closer to her death now. My brother is getting stressed out and reactive. My father will assuredly drink heavily in the aftermath of my mother's passing. I will probably need to go down soon. Please keep my family in your thoughts. I am thankful for this forum.

Thanks much for the thoughtful reply and resources. My mother seems to be getting closer and closer to her death now. My brother is getting stressed out and reactive. My father will assuredly drink heavily in the aftermath of my mother's passing. I will probably need to go down soon. Please keep my family in your thoughts. I am thankful for this forum.

Hello,

My 87 year old mother is in hospice care five hours south of me steadily declining from heart failure. She is in an assisted living facility that is partnering with hospice. My 88 year old father with mild dementia visits her a couple hours each day. He thinks she will be coming home. My brother is there and he lives further away than I do. He has a more open schedule as he is currently unemployed. I am glad he is there.

I am anticipating the grief of losing my mother but also that of my father. I have mourned the loss of my father for a long  time as he is an alcoholic and the drink comes first. My mother's loss will sting, but I think I will feel a mix of profound relief and sadness when my dad goes.

My brother is also an alcoholic and that has been a challenge too. There has been grieving there as well.

In all the upheaval, I remember that my first priority is my family where I live. My friends are precious to me too. As I anticipate the loss of my mother, can foresee the death of my father, and hope to do as well as possible with my brother, I welcome your thoughts.

Best to you.