Howard

One never "gets over it". You, eventually, reconcile yourself to the loss. Day by day, you begin to rebuild your life, and regain some control over it.

It is very important to find help. To find a knowledgable [ sic] to listen and help you find your own answers. If you need medication, take it. People in grief need to talk, it helps the healing process.

I stay up much later -- mostly talking to myself -- and I sleep much later. I made a list of the things that I need to do [ not a daily list], but I haven't made much progress doing them. I guess that I will feel pretty dull or "blah" for quite a while. I do not need to work, so I retired May 1.

My wife passed away on Feb 1, 2004 at 6 am from a heart attack. We did not know about any heart disease. For the eight weeks, I was really suffering. I am going to a grief supprt group and a psychiatrist. I am taking lexapro. The intense anxiety has gone away. But, right now, I am pretty dull & listless. I have not lived alone for a long time, and I miss my wife very much.