my dear, dear friend and her husband recently lost her two young children to the tsunami in Thailand. I so wish I could take some of her pain away. But, I just don't know how to help her.
I try to spend time with her and her husband, just listeneing and holding her, but I feel as if there's nothing I can do for her. I mean, it's not like it makes her feel better, my being there. Her loss is just too big.
Can anyone please advice me on how to help her???
I also have som specific questions:
1) She talks a lot about guilt, about she and her husband being respopnsible for what happened, (because the decided to go on this vacation). What can/should I say about this? Should I address this at all? I mean, the thought of them being responsible is absurd, but would she be able to comprehend this???
2) She talks a lot about being envoious about other families who got to keep their children, to the point where I dare not even speak about my own children or, bring them to her house in case this i too hard for her. What should I do?
Please advice, I do want to help her, but just don't know how. And I've now reached the point where I wonder, can I even help? It's like she's in hell right now, and every time I visit, I enter, as well. But, yeah, I get to leave. But she stays. And this makes me feel so helpless.
How Can I Help?
in Loss of an Infant, Child or Grandchild
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Dear all,
my dear, dear friend and her husband recently lost her two young children to the tsunami in Thailand. I so wish I could take some of her pain away. But, I just don't know how to help her.
I try to spend time with her and her husband, just listeneing and holding her, but I feel as if there's nothing I can do for her. I mean, it's not like it makes her feel better, my being there. Her loss is just too big.
Can anyone please advice me on how to help her???
I also have som specific questions:
1) She talks a lot about guilt, about she and her husband being respopnsible for what happened, (because the decided to go on this vacation). What can/should I say about this? Should I address this at all? I mean, the thought of them being responsible is absurd, but would she be able to comprehend this???
2) She talks a lot about being envoious about other families who got to keep their children, to the point where I dare not even speak about my own children or, bring them to her house in case this i too hard for her. What should I do?
Please advice, I do want to help her, but just don't know how. And I've now reached the point where I wonder, can I even help? It's like she's in hell right now, and every time I visit, I enter, as well. But, yeah, I get to leave. But she stays. And this makes me feel so helpless.
Plerase tell me what to do.
/C