Hello, I have been significantly involved with a gal that is a widower. (died from Cancer) I met her June of this year 2008. Her late husband passed away in late May 2006. Our relationship is "god based" has grown at a very fast pace and into a quality relationship that we have a new life as well. We are still dating but I felt until recently we both felt we were ready to get married. There have been a couple minor issues dealing with minor "glimses" of emotional times when dates, places and or memory have come up. Recently the storm of emotions are amounting to a disaster level. I understand the "around the holiday" deal and reognize the classic signs of grief. What I am wondering is what source of information is out there for the new significant others to deal with and cope along this time. Like what should we be doing, how should we say we understand, what kind of support is needed to help them through these storms. I hope this makes sense... I am currently reading "traveling through Grief" authors Susan Zonnebelth-Smeege and Robert C DeVries..it is helpful but lacking information on what can I be doing.
