Maryo

I took my dog out for a walk today and lifted my head to the warm sun shining on my face. Such a simple thing but it made me feel so good.

Mary Lou

Happy Birthday Marty. Logged in a little late in the evening.

Also I want to wish Starkiss a Happy Birthday.

Mary Lou

Kay,

Happy Birthday.

Hope you had a good day.

Mary Lou

Hi Everyone,

I am thankful for this new forum.I do agree that a loss of a spouse is very unique. All losses are unique and have there own challenges. Thanks Marty.

Mary Lou

Lots of prayers to keep everyone safe.

Mary Lou

What a great idea to share thoughts after the first,second,third year and beyond. My husband died 3 years ago.

My life is easier but many tears still flow.

Mary Lou

Chris,

How I wish there was a pill we could take for the loneliness feeling. It has been almost 3 years since my husband died and I still feel lonely. Not as intense and not everyday but when it hits the tears flow and I tell myself I am ok and I have come so very far. It helps me to carry on to the next day.

Take care.

Mary Lou

I spent the whole day with my daughter enjoying the sunshine and walking my dog without being rained on.

Mary Lou

Kay,

I am so sorry about your job. I will keep you in my prayers.

Mary Lou

Thank you Harry.

I have read many of your posts and your kind words have been very helpful.

I knew I was starting to heal when I realized that yes I missed my husband but I am not ready to die and I am thankful I am still here on earth.I have found many things to be thankful for. Good luck in your journey.

Take care.

Mary Lou

I am so sorry for your loss. The first few months are the hardest but you will get through it as many of us on this site have. It is a great support group who have helped me through the hardest nights.

I miss my husband after almost 3 years but I did survive the first few months and so will you. Baby steps. Tears are part of the healing process.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Sad,

It will get easier please believe me. I used to look in the mirror and not know who was staring back at me.

It took awhile and many tears later, but I did get better and stronger. The first few months are the hardest. It has almost been three years since my husband died. The hurt is less and the tears don't flow as often or as long.I am not the same as before but I am ok and I am able to laugh and smile and find pleasure in life again.

Everything takes time.

Mary Lou

Hi Teny,

Good to hear from you. Thank you for sharing your deam with us. It will be 3 years for me in July and I do agree it does get a bit easier. I am on my own and a little afraid to start a new relationship.I have my daughter and a great companionship with my dog.That is all I can handle for now.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Thank you Kay. Your words about crying are very inspirational and can help us along this journey.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Valley,

Happy Birthday Shelley. Hope you are keeping well.Have a peaceful day and night.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Hi Korina,

I see today is your birthday. I hope you are having a good day and all is well with you and your daughter Kailyn.

I hope this day has many happy memories for you.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Hi Mrs. B,

I know it's hard over 2 and a half years for me and it's ok to get mad because all these feeling make me believe that we are healing.Thank goodness for our children. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Hi Teny,

Thank goodness we can change our mind when we need to. Many times I had said yes and had to back out and I found my friends mostly understood.Sometimes it was easier to say I was not feeling well then to let them know it was a bad grieving day for me.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Hi Deborah,

I read your post and felt I had to reply. I do know how you feel. It has been 2 years and 7 months for me since my husband died. I thought I was doing well but the last few months have been hard again. I feel like I am on a swing up and down. I felt a lot better after the second year then I do now. But I will not give up.

I will keep looking for happier and more peaceful days. We have all come so far and I am so thankful to have this site to come to.

Bye for now.

Mary Lou

Hi Mrs. B,

Nice to hear from you.

I think you have to do what feels right to you and I don't think anyone should judge what is best for you but you. I am sure they are trying to help in their own way.I changed things up at home when I was ready.

I am glad you have the loving support of your daughter. I also am blessed to have a daughter. I don't know where I would be today without her. It has been 2 and a half years since my husband died.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Hi Everyone,

It has been 29 months since I lost my husband. I miss him everyday and the first few months were the worst, but I have survived and it does get easier.

I want to wish everyone a peaceful New Year. I hope all our happy memories will help us through the difficult days.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Teny,

It is nice to see you back. Christmas is a very hard time for all of us. Hope your happy memories will help you over the holidays.

Take care.

Mary Lou

Hi Korina,

You have been missed. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Have a lovely Christmas with Kailyn.

Take care.

Mary Lou

I found at the beginning, when my husband died I always visit his gravesite. Lots of tears would flow.

I now go on special occasions and change the flowers.

Mary Lou

Hi Nancy,

I wish there was a pill to make the loneliness go away. I am very thankful for TV and also for my dog.

My daughter is still living with me so that is company.I find this site helps me alot when it gets to quiet at home.

When I am in the mood I will read a book or rent a movie and get lost for a while.

Take care.

Mary Lou