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This fall will be four years since my daughter died suddenly.

she was very young and beautiful.

Today is our First Father's Day without Dad. It's been 6 months & 15 days

sorry to hear this lisa. i hope you get the strength to go on.

"In February....Feb 19...14 days after her 74th birthday, my Mom passed"

wow, your mum was blessed with a long life.

keep posting how you are feeling

I know my father is not in pain anymore, and I am certain he is in a different place, much prettier and peaceful and loving than here. However, that doesn't take away the fact that his family, is still in this world and missing him very much. This afternoon when leaving work I thought...wow....the first year is coming up, and I am I won't get to see daddy until it is my turn to go...and I wont get to have a hug from him, listen to his words of advice, listen to him laugh. I know he would say, I am fine now, keep going , don't waste one second of life, be happy. He wants us to be happy. The Lord must need him up there. I am thankful I got the chance to be by his side during his last days on earth...

many would have wished to have such an opportunity.

nice poem.

Somewhere deep down some part of me thinks yeah my Dad made this be the first song to play but it's never enough

was the ipod on shuffle mode when you switched it on?

I lost my Mom on May 28, 2010. She was 91. Sometimes people think the right thing to say is that "you are lucky you had her for so long" as though my grief shouldn't be as deep because she was older. Even though she wasn't able to be the Mom that she was to me in her younger days anymore she was still my Mom and I miss her.

My family members never talk about her because the family I see are all on my dad's side and they just pretend it didn't happen

this is a normal reaction. They don't know how to react coz they don't want to hurt you.

...I feel so bad that i didnt stay that last night that she was in the hospice...I was there every other day for the whole 2 weeks leading up to her death...

everything happens for a reason. you were not meant to be there.

I guess in some ways I was lucky, we had some warning and got to spend time with Dad - I was up every Friday, Saturday & Sunday for the 7 weeks.

This was a blessing that many people miss.

I am sorry that you are going through this niamh

L,

maybe its a good thing to find one close friend that you could stick with and find a hobby.

Its also important to remember, for those of us who believe in Jesus (i hate the word Christianity), that when people came to Him for healing and were healed, He would tell them, "Your faith made you well". Now my prayers have changed lots. I normally ask for something once and after that i daily keep thanking God that its done and instead of begging, i claim His promises. Jesus said that The Father would give me whatever i asked for in His Name. John 15:16. why not? He won the victory. He never sinned even once while in His human body.

One promise that i stood by and got healed just from thanking God that it was done is Isaiah 53:5. Yes nothing happened for a long time; for almost 3 months i stood by that promise and finally the pain left my body because i refused to be moved by what i could see or feel.

I am sorry that you had to go through this.

Would like to ask all my old friends for some prayers this week as I prepare to have my knees replaced on Thurs. This will be the first surgery I've had on my own and the first time I've been a little nervous. Had a little scare on Tues. when my EKG was read as a possible heart attack but the stress test was negative so every thing is now a go again. Thanks in advance.

i hope that your knees will be healed.

Yes, this year changed you in so many ways you don't even feel or notice yet. As you struggled you empathized, as you slipped you understood, as you worked you earned, as you looked you learned, as you dared you grew and as you jumped you flew.

Your dreams are still focusing and your passion is growing. Your energy is still bubbling as your story keeps going. You've been through so muich and gained a year's supply of experience along the way. You're stronger than you were last year and stronger than you realize. Sure, there were times you bent, but you definitely didn't break. There were times you caved, but you definitely didn't flake.

Listen up, you ggot bigger, you got better, and you got the scars to prove it.

wow, this so much describes what I've been through!

Do you feel waves of guilt if you laugh and all of a sudden, you think that you shouldn't...

its o.k to let them know that you are recovering and feeling well.

its a good idea to go visit.

I don't even know what to say John. I am sorry.

Coldness, Can't believe how cold I am now. The first few nights after my husband died, I felt like ice was going through my veins. It got better for awhile, but this past week it is happening again. Added another heavy, fluffy blanket to my bed and run a heater, but it is a chill that is hard to describe. I rarely have used heat in my bedroom before all this. Its so strange and annoying at the same time. Does anyone else notice this? And soon the electric bills will go up!! Just curious if its happening to anyone else. I had slept alone for years due to my husband's condition, so its not that I miss someone else being with me. Would be happy if one of my cats jumped in and snuggled with me to help me be warm~~~ Blessings, Debbie

Derby maybe you should seek medical help, seeing that this is hasn't ever happened to you before.

I am sorry to hear that this snowfall aroused your memories and made you sad. 8 weeks is still a short time. when you start feeling sad again, just pm me.

-- Joseph.

I can't imagine sending Christmas Cards. I love Christmas. I love the music and all that it represents but I'm worried that I will be exposing myself to too much too soon and that will shut me down? Does this make sense?

Its a good idea to send Christmas Cards

are the rest of you planning to do for your first Christmas alone? Is it okay to set boundaries verbally to your family and friends? I've found I did receive a lot of e-mails this week to see how I survived Thanksgiving last week?? Which I thought was very kind.

Please let me know what you all are thinking about how you will handle the rest of the month. Thank you - peace and prayers.

- Linda G

You are going to survive this Christmas too Linda.

i believe staying busy is one of the best of things you can do for yourself Rochel.

Has anyone thought about the fact that because our loved ones are in heaven that they have no more need for faith? Down here, we walk by faith and not by sight 2 Cor. 5:7. but in heaven we get to behold Him face to face. Just thought that was an awesome thought to ponder on this Thanksgiving Day. Try to think about all the things we have to be thankful for today. I'm thankful for all the people I've met on this site that I really feel a connection to.

Best to all,

Ted

I think you are right.