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I, too am new to mourning, 6 weeks tomorrow. Andy and I were "lucky" enough to have time to talk about what he wanted to happen if he died( I was the one who kept saying if). He wanted cremation and NO FUSS!. I took most of his ashes to England to scatter in his birthplace, as per his request. I really believe that whether we bury or cremate our loved ones, their real memorial is in our hearts.

I hope you find peace, just as I hope I do, Sue

This is my first time posting. I am new to all this and have read so many of your posts. It does help to know that I am not alone in this pain. Weekends are always so difficult and this was no different. There are so many conversations that are left silent, so much laughter that is no longer and it is just so very painful... I just pray and try to keep it in the present because when I think of the future without him and what my life will hold it it just too unbearable right now. Laurie

I have just passed the five week anniversary of my husband's death. It has been surreal, a whirlwind of activity, hardly time to think, feeling numb. Just came back home on Friday after taking his ashes to his birthplace in England, hoping to help his mom by having a simple family memorial. Now I'm home, it's July 4th weekend, the house is empty, the sympathy cards are still here. I feel like I'm finally beginning to realize Andy's gone. You're right, it feels unbearable.

I'm hoping this site will help me eventually come to terms with his death. Sue