My name is Matt, and two months ago my wife of 5 years came to me out of the blue and asked me for a divorce. To make a long and painful story short, she had been seeing another man and in the time since discovering this I have found out our entire relationship was one lie after another. I feel foolish, naive, weak, and sad. I am an intelligent, attractive, passionate, funny, 32 year old and yet I find myself sobbing at times for this loss. I am deeply spiritual, and have found much comfort in my faith. But I just don't know how to let go. Every sign is pointing to the fact that I have really lost nothing, but instead have been given the chance to greatly improve my health and over all well being. I feel so weak looking at the deeply moving stories the rest of you have published here. Deaths and marriages much longer than mine abound. I realize the significance of loss is a deeply personal thing, but I feel irrational and so very foolish. My wife was my dream come true. I can remember nights when I would simply watch her sleep and thank God for this precious gift. The sight of her sleeping brought me joy because I felt like I was watching over her and could protect her from the outside world. She never needed rescuing, it was merely a tender feeling I cherished and miss so very much. I miss holding her close and placing my head against her chest to listen to her heart beat. It was in those moments I could hear eternity and feel my soul connecting with the divine. The mornings and evenings are the worst. I loved that I would wake up with her face as my dawn, and fall asleep with her in my arms. I have always been a passionate and romantic soul, but now I curse my heart because it just refuses to let go and I am finding it hard to move on. I have made so many improvements in my life and overall I am very happy. But I feel shackled by these deeply buried feelings of attachment. I know there is no quick fix, but it feels good to get it out. Thank you for listening (or reading as the case may be). I shall keep all of you in my continued prayers! Matt