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The hospital said there was no bumps on the outside of her head and for the amount of bleeding and swelling she had, if she had fallen off of anything then there would have been something on the outside of her head to go along with that. The official autopsy report isnt back yet so I guess you could be right. No one ever knows. Even if she did fall though she still left a sweet baby unattended and able to hurt herself.

Yes. It is horrible to think that she was left so helpless and in a position where she could fall and hurt herself. The loss you have endured because of this is unspeakable! I cannot imagine that one ever can heal completely from this and both my husbands and my heart just breaks for you. Waiting for the autopsy report must be so very hard now too. I pray you have more answers when this is complete. Because of our journey through this one of the medical experts spoke to us and told us that bumps and bruising on the outside of the head may not show from falls like this because the veins within the skull are more spread apart in a baby. There are more areas without veins. You should be able to see evidence of impact from the autopsy though. The swelling causes more veins to rupture and more bleeding. I don't know your situation, but I know as a mom I wanted to know just what had happened to my baby as tough as it was to search out the information and doctors to help find the answers for me. I can just say I pray God help you have the strength to get through this and give you comfort through this terrible time. God Bless You.

Three weeks and 2 days ago my little girl who was only 6 months and 3 weeks passed away from being vigorously shaken while at a day care provider I had been taking my other daughter to for over two years. I trusted her with my kids, she was like family. She tried to tell the hospital that she fell off the couch, but they said no way. I dont understand how this could happen. How someone I thought loved my kids like her own could hurt them even on accident. I was wondering if any parents are on here with the same situation as me. How do you cope with this? How do I take my other daughter back to a day care facility without going completely insane? Anyone that would like to give feedback please. I could use any advise I could get right now.

I just saw your post and had to write. You see my husband and I have experienced something so similar to what you are currently suffering with right now. There are no words to bring comfort to your loss and I am so sorry you are feeling this pain. One piece of advice or information I wanted to give you is about the shaken baby verdict from the hospital. You write that a caregiver you trusted and who you thought loved your kids had done this terrible thing to your little love, but that she says your child fell off the couch. I found a website that contains so much medical information on shaken baby and one of the things is that the articles there show that a fall off a couch can have the same symptoms as shaken baby. I wanted to write because on top of your grief you are also dealing with betrayed trust. It might be that she is telling the truth about the fall so please see the link just in case. This information still does not erase the horrible suffering and heartbreak - believe me I know, but it may at least provide some answers. Knowing the truth behind what happened to ones child does help as we attempt to heal, though nothing can fill that void in your heart.

http://medicalmisdiagnosisresearch.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/child-atd-reconstruction-of-a-fatal-pediatric-fall/

I hope this helps a bit. You might write the administrator of the link above for more help.