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Dear One- My mom died on March 1st and I feel the same way. I am also 49 years old and never thought that I would be without my mom so soon. The only place that I can find solace is at church. Have you tried a house of worship or a bereavement group? I will start counseling tomorrow which I hope will help. I pray that you will find solace in some place if only for a few moments. We are all in this together.

In the midst of my grief over the loss of my mom six weeks ago, I am dealing with our funeral director, still. The cost of the funeral was a whopping $13, 895 although it was very basic and we cut corners. I had to pay $4500 up front and I explained that I could pay the rest in installments later. Last week she had someone call me to see "how I was doing" and wondered when I was going to handle the rest of the bill. I emailed back last Monday and said that I would have money available this week and I would send a check. She emailed me today and asked if we could "get together" because she is going out of town on Friday. I mailed a check for $5000 and a note that I could pay the remainder by the end of May. Are funeral directors prone to "stalk" for money under the pretense of caring for the family? Had I known this I would have gone elsewhere. I am grieving and disgusted! HELP11

Thanks for giving me some reassurance.

Thank you very much! This has already been helpful. My 15 year old son does talk to his 21 year old sister and told her that he believes his recent success in his sport is due to his late grandmother looking over him. At least he does talk to his sister and some of his friends as well. I am going to grief counseling this week to help me deal with my own grief and ultimately, his. Thanks again.

My Mom died on March 1, 2011 after a brief bout with pneumonia. My husband and two kids and I were living with her at the time of her death. She was healthy one day, and in the hospital the next with complications from a seizure, pneumonia, and kidney failure. The month of her sickness was devestating. My 15 year old son is at home with us and our daughter is in college. I cry everyday, but can not seem to talk to my son about my mom's death. He has talked to my daughter who is away, but I feel like I need to say soemthing to him. I am so devastated. He looks so much like her and the two of them had such a special relationship. Any thoughts or words of wisdom out there?