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MissingThem

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  1. Thanks for understanding, KayC. How sad about the dog you saw that was suffering - it must have been terrible to see him like that. And to get a ticket on top of it! But you tried to help and you really cared about what happened to him.
  2. Thanks for sharing that, Leftover, and for helping that poor sweet kitty. He may still have been clinging to life when you picked him up and you made his last moments peaceful.
  3. Thank you Kay for your response and understanding. I have kept all my pets collars and leashes too. Those precious remembrances are really a comfort at times. I've been reading through some of the posts since I was last here and my heart aches for all those grieving at the loss of their beloved animal friends. It really helps to be able to come here and share. Still missing our sweet little pup, Missy. The other day I was trying to remember if I'd really been able to have a good cry over losing her. I have definitely shed tears but have been afraid to let go...of her and my emotions. Went through another loss last night. For the last few months my husband and I have been noticing a kitten darting through the neighborhood. The day before yesterday she was in our yard, probably sneaking into the back to get some food we put out for the feral kitty. I tried to approach her with sweet talk and she looked at me warily. Then she started to head towards the street and traffic was coming so we backed off and then she waited to cross and made it safely to the other side. We were relieved but concerned that such a little kitty was still on her own. She didn't let us approach her and was always so skittish. We would see her from time to time and wonder where she was going as she was darting away. Yesterday my husband had to run an errand and as he was pulling away from our house he noticed something lying on the curb on the other side of the street. He got out to check and to his dismay it was our little kitten friend. He had driven away but called to let me know. I ran out to check on her - she was still warm and appeared to be alive although unconscious. The neighbor whose house the kitty was near came out and offered assistance. It wasn't her cat but she had seen it running around the neighborhood too. She brought out a towel after checking the cat also and the kitty was still breathing but it seemed to be getting fainter. I couldn't just leave her out there so brought her into the house and wrapped a blanket around the towel to help keep her warm. She passed not long after. I just couldn't leave her to die alone. She had such a short, hard life and never really had a chance. I thought I was doing okay with her passing since we really hadn't been able to get close to her although we tried. And her short, fragile life helped us appreciate the pets we do have even more. But after I called today to have her body picked up I just broke down. It was so hard to see her one day so full of spunk and sass and the next day dying on the curb. My husband was also upset and we said a prayer over her body before she was picked up. RIP sweet little girl. We would have loved to have you for our own!
  4. Thank you for your responses. It definitely helps to come here and share. It's still hard to believe that Missy is gone. I do feel depressed and sad about it. But it's becoming more of a numbness because I still have to function. It's not as raw as it was at first but the grief is still there. Can you believe her dog food is still in the fridge? I took her unopened cans back to the store for refund. But can't part with the 2 cans remaining. Hope that doesn't sound too gross. I'm getting ready to toss them because they are probably getting moldy. The one I had opened for her morning feeding the day she died. I think I opened the other the day before. She used to get one flavor in the morning (stew) and a different one at night (pate). She ate the stew so hearty that morning, she always loved to eat. I would have never thought that we were going to lose her that day. She ate her breakfast, then went in the yard with me while I was on the rebounder and wandered around as she normally would. It was sunny although a bit humid but still fairly pleasant. No hint of bad weather on the horizon although the weather report the day before had called for storms, some severe. How could we know that the storm would come and go and Missy would be gone because of it? She always got so scared during the storms. I went to check on her at the onset of the storm and it was already too late. It still seems so strange not to see her around.
  5. Thank you for sharing about your kitty, kayc. I love that our animals come with their own unique personalities. We felt Missy had experienced abuse before she came to us. She was so skittish and leery initially. She would put her tail between her legs and crouch when she felt threatened. As time wore on she began to trust us and started to become more and more confident. She would get nervous meeting someone for the first time but after she got to know them better, she loved to see her friends when they visited. She would get all excited and sometimes run back and forth or jump up for a pat and give a kiss. A far cry from the timid little pup we first met.
  6. She is a beautiful kitty! You're right - how could anyone get rid of her? Great that she is with you now!
  7. Thanks for sharing about your kitty, Missy Mocha. She sounds really sweet. I'm so glad she found you - sounds like she really needed you. She knew she was in a good place and would be well cared for.
  8. Thank you for your reply. We do have other pets, cats and birds. It certainly does help having other pets to love. When Missy came to us, we never planned on keeping her. She came to us a stray puppy, just wandering the streets. She'd been sleeping under a vehicle we used to keep parked outside unbeknownst to us. Someone else alerted us to her presence. She was so scared, she would only let me approach her initially. I was able to coax her enough to pick her up at that first meeting so I could take her in the house. We were trying to find her original owners but to no avail. By then, we were of course getting attached to her and decided to keep her. We'd already bought her a leash and collar, nice bed, toys, etc. so it just seemed like the next logical step. We're feeling a bit overwhelmed with grieving for her and we just wouldn't have the time or resources to adopt another dog. Having other pets keeps us busy and to take in a dog would be too much right now. We haven't ruled it out in future but for now it's not an option. Maybe someday. Yes, that is her picture in the avatar. Thank you for your compliment about her, I think she's really cute too! She was just a little sweetie.
  9. Yesterday I did my laundry and felt such pangs of grief for my sweet lil pup. She would always come outside with me when she saw me heading to the back yard, laundry basket in tow. She was always such a good little helper! I realized with a pang that it's the first time doing laundry since she passed. Also can't believe I managed to go that long without doing it. Trying to avoid another one of those firsts....the first time I did laundry without her. The first time DH and I actually sat in the patio - it was weeks after she passed that we were finally able to do that. It felt so strange. She was one of the main reasons we got that furniture in the patio so we could hang out with her and play fetch with her. She would jump up on the chair by DH, or lounge on the loveseat with me for a quick rest and cuddle. Then it was back to dashing after the ball with us coaxing her to bring it back. Or she might lose interest altogether and find a chew and comfy spot to just relax and hang out with us. We miss you, little pup!
  10. Today is four weeks that our sweet little girl is gone. Hard to believe, still hurts so much. I keep looking at her pictures, trying to memorize every detail and not wanting to forget anything about her. I have a picture I snapped of her 7 years ago that I framed. I was trying to get her to look at the camera, sweet talking her. Of course she finally looked and I took the picture. Who knew all this time later it would be such a comfort to me. The look on her face was so sweet, she looked at me with this loving look on her face. I feel irritable and overwhelmed. I don't think I'm dealing well with this process. I'm trying, but I just miss her so much.
  11. Just missing my dog who recently passed..............
  12. Thank you, Kay, for your kind words. I do really miss him. Having the headstone to commemorate him is comforting....it's a physical reminder that he was here, even though he's gone.
  13. I lost my 14 year old cat to cancer and kidney disease on January 10, 2012. I still find it difficult to believe he is gone. I keep thinking that I see him out of the corner of my eye. I keep expecting to see him when I look for him at the places he used to frequent. But he's not there and I am left with this emptiness and pain. I still cry sometimes when it hits me and I'm angry too. Its just so unfair but I know he couldn't live forever and he hung in there as long as he could. He was such a wonderful, sweet cat. My avatar is from when Jasper was 3 years old. We had just moved out to the southwest, and I had just lost my mom to ALS. She loved Jasper, She had me frame a picture of him that was hung so she could see it near her bed. When I came across this picture recently I was surprised at how healthy he looked, how beautiful. I had forgotten how pretty he was. Before his health issues began and it was harder at times for him to groom himself. The cat I had adopted him with used to groom him, too. It was so sweet when they used to groom each other. But I lost her to lung disease when they were 7 years old. Jasper went through so much with me over the years. Moves, the loss of my mother, a new relationship and then marriage. I think it was hard for him to share me at first. The first three years my cats were used to having me all to themselves. They adjusted though. It was so sweet how Jasper used to shyly seek me out. He was part feral and didn't want anything to do with anyone else but me. He did sometimes let my husband pet him but he was very bonded to me. He was such a constant presence in my life. When I got home from work I would always check on him. If I got up in the night he would be right there with me when I was reading or on the computer. He was always open to cuddling with me and was always near me. It feels so lonely to not have him here. I miss him so much. My husband ordered a little headstone for him that we put over his grave. I put some flowers on it, it looks nice. My heart aches for him when I see it....Mummy misses you Jasper! Thanks for letting me share.
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