leon

Dear Leon, you are posting to a group of people all of whom have lost their spouses...some last month as you have and others further in the past. Of course others read the posts also. I lost the love of my life 30 months ago. People will respond to your post and co verse with you, support you, share with you and care for you. Our moderator is Marty, a wise and compassionate grief counselor. You might wish to visit her website, www.griefhealing.com. You will find great information there also.

I am here to tell you that loss and grieving loss is a journey unique to each of us with similarities of course. It is challenging, and that you already know. I am so so sorry for your loss. Your life has been turned inside out and upside down. We all know how that feels. It does get easier but now it is time to walk through your grief...not around it. Cry your tears, own your pain, do your grief work. In time we all learn how to weave our grief into the fabric of our lives, to live with it as best we can. You might want to read and educate yourself as losing a spouse is so tough. Take care of yourself. Be patient and take one day at a time. We are all here for you. Keep posting. Peace, Mary

i'm not sure if i am responding to a specific person or not...this is my first time in an online group discussion..... i lost Laura, my dear wife of 34 years, this past august 3rd... although some days are "better than others" the extreme sadness and my missing and thinking of her mostly every minute of every day has not lessened much if at all... from what i read and hear, we will never rid ourselves of the grief, we will learn to manage it.....the possibility of learning to manage the grief is what gives me hope that there will be "easier" days, months and years in the future...going back to work has helped to a point as i am, for the better of an 8 hr. work day, concentrating on work issues...

I'm in the process of learning how to navigate/communicate within a chat room...I hope this reply gets posted to Lina and Kay C. Thank you for your comments. I have been to one support group, not really sure if it has helped but I am going to continue to attend. I am planning to return to work some time next week. What I read and hear indicates that getting back to some sort of routine does help. What are your thoughts on returning to work?.....Leon

This is my first time on a blog, hope I am replying correctly. Laura, my wife of 31 yrs. passed away 2 wks. ago...grief is awful...any suggestions regarding depression are appreciated........