So, after seeing my psychologist today, I was reminded/informed that I have to move on. This includes learning that our home is now my home and making it such. Getting out of the house, even though all I want is to hide and stay away from people beyond the interactions that I am required to participate in i.e. work, grocery shopping, taking dog for walk, communicating with family. I have been told that Judy would have wanted me to move on and find another person to share my life with. I was informed that doing that does not have to happen now. My concern is that I'm not interested in spending time with other people. I was with my soulmate for 13 years, I believe that you only get one shot at it. I had mine. What's the point in trying again when I know the inevitable outcome is pain, sadness, etc? I am also very picky about letting people into the house. I feel as though other people (friends, etc) will contaminate the home and the likelihood of Judy's spirit coming back to see me will be diminished. I don't know if these feelings are normal, but they are definitely thoughts that are going through my head. I don't know how to move on, I'm not sure I want to move on. If I stay i this place, I kinda feel as though Judy is still with me even though I know that she always wanted me to start making decisions on my own and wanted me to be more social (we weren't able to do that the last 3 years as the cancer was progressing). I just feel lost, confused, stuck, and unsure of what to do.
Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Shaina