lonelywithouthusband

brnagn53

I am sorry for everyones loss. I am also a recent widow. I lost my husband last December. We all feel the same way, we lost a part of our body, our heart. You just have to let yourself go through the grieving process. I bought a couple of grieving books on ebay that has helped me, it helps you know that you are perfectly fine and you are going to go through certain steps of grieving. It is still definitely hard, no matter how we look at it. This is a wonderful site, as you know there are a lot of people going through the same thing. Losing a spouse is very difficult! I go a few days of being fine, then all of a sudden something triggers a thought of him and I cry for 3-4 days. We have to cry, it gets us through it.

Hugs to you all!!

Lynn

The quilt is so, so beautiful. I don't think I could do this though....I would feel too sad to look at his clothes or shirts... I can't really look at my precious hubby's pictures or anything...it's way too painful and I feel like I am going to just fall apart. Today is 75 days I never thought anyone could possibly be so sad. I actually do not even feel like a real person anymore. I feel like an empty shell with no future or anything to look forward to. It's just not fair and I'm feeling so sorry for myself again and of course him, who did not deserve to leave.....he was the best husband in the world, the best person. I guess I just popped in to write again. I always cry when I write in here....it's think it's my therapy..thank you for listening and I hope everyone is doing ok - as best as you can. Again, the quilt is so beautiful....

Hi Missingmylove,

I stopped in here again to see how you and everyone else is doing. Looks like we are all doing the same. I did have a stretch of good days for some reason, but now I am back to having my sobbing days. And with the quilt, I did keep some of my husbands clothes, as I planned on making a quilt some day, not sure when? As with you, looking at and getting rid of his stuff is very difficult. This site is great as we can express our feeling, and belief it or not is probably helping us cope. Hang in there.

Hugs,

Lynn

Lonelywithouthusband

I am thinking of you during this difficult day for you. And I know "difficult" doesn't even come close to describing it. We all know of the gut wrenching pain.

((((Hugs))))

Lisa

Mommy1201,

Thank you. I know this first year is going to be a difficult one. But knowing there are so many others going through the same thing helps the pain a little.

Lynn,

Just want you to know I'm thinking of you and hoping the day wasn't as hard as you anticipated. (((hugs)))

KayC,

Thank you. I made it through it.

Im sorry for your losses. My wife died Jan 9th this year. 18 days ago. She was 50. My life, heart, entire world. I'm pretty lost. But you have my thoughts prayers and sympathies.

Butch.

R.Everit55,

I am very sorry for your loss, also. It is so difficult to loose the ones we love at such young ages. We are all here together to try an make it through our difficult times.

KayC

Thank you. It will be a tough day for me.

Lynn,

You'll be especially in my thoughts tomorrow as you face your husband's birthday. Trust me, all of us here know what both of you are going through...been there, and we felt the same.

KayC

Thank you. It will be a tough day for me.

Dear Lynn,

I'm so sorry for your loss and big hug back to you. I am also thinking the same exact thing that you said .....I too keep thinking that there could have been something more I could have done to have him still here. Most days I wish I would have died instead of him. He was the kindest, most sincere, unselfish person I could ever, EVER know.... He did not deserve to have his life over with. It's just not fair. I love him so much, and like you, I feel like a part of body is missing. I just want him back I don't know how people can go either. People always say it will get better....I have no idea how. He is my whole life - and he's gone.

missingmylove,

thank you for replying to me. My husband was my life and backbone, I felt I could do anything when he was around, now I feel like I am lost. It is not fair! I keep thinking some how I can bring him back, but know in reality it is not going to happen. Can I ask you how old your husband was? My husband was 59, would have been sixty tomorrow 1/28. I had all these plans to enjoy myself with him when I retired (he was retired/disabled). And do all the things we dreamed of doing. It is just soo hard, especially getting rid of his stuff. He was so proud of what he owned, as he worked hard to get what we had. He loved flying r.c. planes, and it is so hard to get rid of them, I feel like I am betraying him. Why does this have to be so difficult.

missingmylove,

I lost my husband of 11 years (was together 15) Dec 3 2014. Your post is like words right out of my mind. Everything you said is so very similar to my husband and my relationship. And the other post about going to the store and seeing things that you would have bought for your husband, same goes here. And coming home, to an empty feeling. I feel I am missing part of my own body! It is so difficult! I feel if I am doing something without him I am leaving him out. I do not know how anyone can go on. I also have children and grandchildren. He also loved me sooo much, as I did him. I was his caretaker for many years. It was a lot of work, working a full-time job also. I keep thinking there could have been something I could have done to still have him around.

But, like I said, your words are exactly my words in every way. I am thinking of you, as I go through my grieving also, I totally understand.

Here is a great big (((hug))) for you.

lynn