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ErickaN

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About ErickaN

  • Birthday April 5

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    Mother
  • Date of Death
    8/21/15
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Houston, TX
  1. Hi thank you for commenting and I am so sorry for your loss as well. The ME's cause of death came back inconclusive. So he really didn't have a lot of information besides they don't know what caused her death. He did tell me that it is similar to sids but they are moving away from that cause of death. No everyone was unsympathetic and cold they didn't know my daughter or me because they wouldn't be acting this way. I'm just so hurt. Even though they were no signs of abuse or neglect CPS is trying to say I was a neglectful mother for leaving her in my mothers care because she has a history of mental illness that is being controlled by Meds and she has a psychologist that she sees regularly. She's not violent and doesn't have any history of abuse. So I'll be meeting with a lawyer next week. Sigh.... I'll be glad when all of this is over and I can properly grieve her death.
  2. thank you it was terrible. I'm sorry about what happened to you too. I plan on looking into who made that call and if it was the hospital or the police and go from there. I am seeing a grief counselor and it's the best thing I could have done. She also lost a child so I feel like she really understands me beyond the oh so often "I can't even imagine how you feel" comment I get from most people. I look forward to our weekly session and I know she saved my life.
  3. Hello All, My name is Ericka and my daughter passed away on August 21 2015 1 day after her 12 mo checkup two days after her 1st birthday and the night before her birthday party. My daughter was the perfect baby good checkups and she was already walking and just fine up until the day she passed. My daughter was at my moms house that Friday while I was at work and normally I would pick her up on Friday evenings but I didn't because I was preparing for her party at around 6:45pm I got the call that my daughter was unresponsive and that I needed to get to the ER asap. I wont go through all of the details but basically me and pretty much my whole family cousin, aunts, grandmothers arrived and got the news that my daughter had passed despite everything they tried to do to save her. Because it was so sudden and unexplained I was not allowed to see her because of "protocol" I still cant believe it they just sent us home. I didn't see her for another 4 days. She was perfect just looked like she was sleeping. So you can imagine how its all still a little hard to believe some days because I still don't have closure. Since then her death was ruled inconclusive and my mom was cleared of any wrongdoing or neglect that they suspected why I don't know . I really feel like somewhere someone really dropped the ball deeming that its appropriate to not allow a childs parents to see them when there was no cause to believe that she was harmed no bruises no wounds no anything. I've read how other parents discovered their children and were allowed to see them I don't understand why my situation was any different. Anyone who knew me or her knew she was loved and me nor anyone else would have harmed her so I'm battling now with grief anger and confusion.
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