misswilson

My boyfriend lost his brother 13 years ago to a car accident. He since then has lost a couple of close friends and just 3 days ago has lost another close friend. I have only been here to witness his grief for the most current loss. Since loosing his friend on Sunday which is 3 days ago, he has completely pulled back from our relationship. Saying he has no feelings or emotions. He is not sure if we wants a relationship right now. Things were completely fine with us before and now he is questioning everything about us. I feel completely caught off guard. Even though it has only been a couple of days I know that I want our relationship and him more than anything. We had the greatest love and now with all of this going on it feels like it has been taken away. My heart feels broken as while he sits here and says it is the relationship I know it has nothing to actually do with us. I am hoping we can get back on track and into our good place again but sometimes I feel there is no hope. And other times he showers me with hope. It is such a confusing time for the both of us. I have been researching grief and how people deal with it all this morning. I have to say this is probably the best read I had been able to read. I know that I want to be in this relationship with him and I don't want to walk away even though advice from friends has been to leave. But this story has given me some hope that he will come back. He just needs time and maybe some space to figure out how he's feeling. We live together with my daughter and I really don't want to move out only to be able to work past this rough patch and have her confused. Ahh so much confusion at this time. I am super happy to have found this group.