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I'm feel bad for you that you couldn't be there with your mom all the time...Even tho she had dementia, I'm sure she missed you deeply when you weren't there...You don't know what goes on when you're not there...As for hospitals, there you are, you can't trust them either..

I disagree kayc....many hospices (I did not say all, mind you) overmedicate, as do some hospitals.....The problem is, kayc, that there is not enough COMPASSION for the elderly and especially elderly that are ill. We, in this country, should take a look at other countries (Japan, for example) that treat their elderly much better. And concerning many of the nursing homes in the U.S., just visit some of them if you haven't already, and unless you are void of any empathy, you will throw up from seeing the conditions of living there!!!

I think the hospice that gave my mom meds overdid it one day and caused her to die sooner than expected....Just because she acquired hiccups one day and was a little agitated when the nurse was visiting, she was given double doses of morphine and Ativan, and, as a result, she died the next day. I think these nurses are just trained to drug up the patients, just like I've heard they do in the nursing homes. She could have lived longer if not for that occurrence and I blame myself for not stopping that nurse. This hospice was and is bad news. Be wary of who you hire in your home.

Thank you for your response...I've received at least 15 different signs during that six month period after she passed and they all occurred at a time when I wasn't looking for it...I pray for her every day...I've asked her every day for the past few months for a sign; I've tried meditating; but nothing happens....I'm losing hope.

Have been a caretaker for 9 years to her.....She passed last year and it's been extremely difficult to go on...I received signs from her on occasion for about six months after her passing and that helped a little.....But since then she has not been around and I don't understand why it has stopped...It was the only thing that kept me going....Nothing left now....Wish there was a quick, painless and guaranteed way to go.