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  1. I almost forgot. I did a few pictures in AI to see what it came up with for a balcony. I would be happy with this, until I saw the cost lol.
  2. Got my dishes and very happy with them. Today was 50s and alot of rain. Had a guy come by trying to sell me his electric company. I hate few things more than these people trying to scam me. I dont mind if they ask. but when i say I'm not interested just say thank you and leave. This deal of saying 'I'm not selling anything'..well yes they are and well they just lied to me so. And it is catastrophically disrespectful. theyre scammers and nothing more. Good thing you keep your passwords written down. years back my dad spent alot of time scanning in all our family pictures. then his drive crashed and he lost them all. Same thing has happened to me so i have a password book. Every so often when Windows updates my passwords fall out. Sometimes the website doesnt let you recover your info. Everyone should have a password book as backup. Electronics just arent full reliable. When I get unlazy will send pics of my dishes, like them very much. (seriously dont understand why im so lazy and unmotivated), Even found a couple Ramen bowls that almost match perfectly. Had not known they existed. Wide at the top and narrow on the bottom. Theyre supposed to be used for ramen noodles then add your meat and veges or an egg on top. And i discovered im allergic to white rice. have always loved it. I was getting acid reflux every time I had chicken and rice and gravy. But I dont get it with other chicken dishes. Ten I read that theres something in white rice that some people get allergic too...so thats not even a casual option anymore. But I guess thats ok because im loving my salads. Ive found a topping that is mixed nuts and cranberry and is delicious. So I'll have a big turkey or hamburger or chicken and a salad and fruit for dessert. Thank you for the recipe, ill have to try that, looks yummy. Some people just like old computers. They like seeing if they can get em to run and see how they work. I would be one of those except for life. Been waiting on more for my balcony. Some nights are in the 40s so dont want tropicals to die off. But I have a rocking chair and want a small side table net to that. have some windchimes. One short end is a wall. the other is open to look at the neighbors across the way. I thought a tall planter stand unit to put several on...else attach a bamboo blind that I can roll down. Not that I see them out there but still. The open long side has a wrought iron fencing with vertical posts. I as thinking to get some cheap bamboo shades and cover the iron. Then build a raised planter, even just bricks and a board...so the plants have the pots in shade and the foliage in sun. Plus I wont be looking at the parking lot. I have two trees that help block me out and really just one balcony that could see me. I just dont want to spend too much on it. How is your weather doing? I tried sending some of ours your way. Still have snow? A few nights ago I had a dream with Dad in it. Wasnt a troubling dream but it made me sad. Now I cant even remember it. One day soon i need to pull out some family history and read. I spent some time in dad's library trying to gain some insight into his thoughts and dreams. There was one written in the 1920s about a man's scrapbook he kept all during his life. it held a treasure of wisdoms and classical learning. And it struck me...how far things have changed. back then they valued and learned from the lessons of the past, learned from the great writings, sought wisdom, sought to make our society great. They revered and respected the past and its learned men and women. Today is total opposite. Emphasis is all placed on kids and that they know best and our hope lies in them. That the old ways were wrong and there was no wisdom in anything. It was just a bunch of greedy old white men trying to spoil the world. They do have a sideways take on the rich getting richer. But the people complaining dont get that the leaders of their movements are doing theexact same things. Anyway, we dont value the lessons of the past, the old wisdoms. They are opening things up to anarchy and the dumbing down instead of lifting up. Anyway, that struck me like a hammer and if I was eloquent i'd write on it. Ok, enough of that. Hope your week goes well, Take good care.
  3. I found out the oil goes rancid when i was cooking a whole pan of chicken with it. Somethimg smelled funny but i had no idea. one taste and it went out. I had found some japanese bowls that i liked but no plates to go with so ill get something rustic think. There is a style of light brown pottery thats of a southwest or N American style but cant think of the name and dont see it. Those are very pretty plates. I understand my folks a bit more now. Whereas I would rather shop online to get better selection and not waste time...they enjoyed getting out and going shopping. my dad esp would rather run to several stores looking for something. But I like that i can get a much better selection online. Thats esp true when shopping for books. So much better selection online and at better prices than at a normal bookstore. Can you contact the Mormons or ask someone to do that for you? im sure theyre busy so maybe just running late. Really pretty today, 70s, overcast and breezy. hoping for rain soon. Went to the store and got some avocado oil. I have bought a Tfal stickfree pan so will try it next time I cook chicken. Also bought some stirfry vegetables. And sweet pickles. Ive started eating them again. Mom and her best friend when she was a girl would spend saturday afternoons at the movie theater watching Flash Gordon eating a big pickle and drinking a coke. watched the squirrels playing on the roof. they run on the metal carport roof and it sounds like a herd. My neighbor has a young hounddog that they let sit on the patio. I went out to water my plants and he just looked at me, so sad. Seems cruel. Hoping your week goes well. take care
  4. Id read on seed oils. I use olive oil. Altho i dont like that it burns lower and adds a bit of taste so i just season a bit more. I'll have to try coconut oil. sadly the days of trusting people who do work for you is long gone. You'd want to get it all in writing. But then sometimes they dont know exactly whats involved until they get in there. My Title company made mistakes and assumptions sending my brother a 1099, they assumed Mom was on the deed and sent him Moms half and me Dads half since I had the ladybird Deed. But we had gone to court and taken Mom off the Deed, and you cant even do a Ladybird Deed when someone on the original Deed is deceased. It even says in the opening paragraph naming Dad as the sole owner. And the Title company 'supposedly' voided the 1099 but their system wouldnt print it. No word from them so i need to contact them and get a new 1099 for bro's tax guy. They missed it and they made mistakes and they need to fix or pay for it. Going to send a letter that they will sign for asking for a copy showing void to be sent to me and to him. I suspect theyre BSing me and it will be a problem. This i what my bro doesnt understand about owning a home. Things break and its expensive. Im sorry it happening and hope things work out for you. Im grateful nothing else happened to the house before I sold it. The folks that moved in had an open house for family and neighbors. Neighbors told me they did new carpet, repainted, wood floor in kitchen and bathrooms. But the wood trim and kitchen cabinets they painted. they painted the beautiful wood. Diet/nutrition...I developed allergy to oils, and KFC was how I found out. When I worked for target years back i was eating a burger and fries every day i worked. My metabolism crashed every time. Certain foods etc do that still. But I still crave. Id love tater chips rt now. $1000, thats a relief. Glad its working out. Houses can get scary at times. Good thing you know how to do alot of things. That can be an advantage of an apt IF they will fix things. But at times thats a big if. I think im going to try making some lettuce wraps. Do you eat salads/lettuce etc? Well i'm finally ordering some real dishes. We used two sets at the house and they were real nice. but big formal sets and most of it i didnt need. So it sold in the sale. I've been using plastic but I think it's time to get real dishes. Hopefully things are quiet for a few days. Take good care.
  5. Compression socks...my sore never healed. I sent a msg at the time to my PCP, cause i dint think having a sore that didnt heal was normal. they called back 2 weeks later and left a msg to do what i always did with a cut. just another reason i dont trust nor respect them. I have to call the service and they send a msg, and the answers i get often have nothing to do with my question. My laptop Win10 needed to update yesterday, all afternoon. Its not supposed to work on it during my hours but it does and i cant do anything. Microsoft and Windows arent worth a crap but I dont care to spend the effort to install a different Operating system. I wonder if me changing my diet is what all but got rid of my sinus and hay fever. I know I do have some...rather used to have some food allergies. Some cooking oils swell my sinuses and all that. I still want the flavor of french fries but dont want the grease. the fried with breading foods like chicken. makes me want to run to the deli lol. But fried foods arent good for me, nor is breading. My doctors did the worst thing possible not explaining anything because im afraid to eat many things. Damned if ya do and damned if ya dont. I was very bad and had cookies and I got some pretzels. They taste like cardboard so they went in the trash. My dad had this. nothing tasted right, like it used to. Maybe im just losing senseof taste, maybe they make it different. But back to eating like I was and right away feel better. Going to do some yoga and some weights after dinner digests. I know you're good mod and you have much more patience than i would. Theyre lucky to have you. Beautiful day here today, 80 I think. We get a couple days nice then chances of rain for a week. I hope it does. Thats too warm for this month. I need to get some pots and dirt and repot my plants. Ive just been feeling so lazy and unfocused. I think I was so burned out for the past few years my battery is dead. i need to just jump in and it will recharge. Sorry this is so disjointed, was written over a couple days and my mind is scattered. How are Kodie and Panther doing? Do you still have much snow on the ground or is it gone? Take good care of yourself.
  6. Eclipse here tomorrow right after lunch. lasts about two and a half hours with totality for 4 minutes. I decided to stay home tomorrow. people have been a bit crazy and there will be many from out of town. Hows your foot doing? Healing I hope. have you tried icing it for the pain? We hit 80 today, i think spring has started here. I need to run get some pots and dirt for my 4 plants but not going anywhere tomorrow. Well eclipse came and went. i was on my balcony and partly cloudy, it got very dark and the sky behind the clouds became a very dark blue almost as if it was the start of night. Really cool and freaky. i can see why in ancient days people went crazy over this. Made my chicken in the pan again but this time instead of browning in flour or such i used schnitzel covering and was really good. I cut it up and roll in covering, brown, then add chicken broth or gravy and simmer til its falling apart. that and a nice big salad. Grieving Group...sound like the software messed up. I would think to oversee a Group would take great patience. I did it once and will never do it again. FB...they dont operate for the benefit of their customers. It has become much more than what it started as. Mine is long gone and I am perma locked out. I dont miss it. How much snow did you get? We have storms coming in tonight thru tomorrow, possibly severe and maybe hail and tornados. my car is in the open so if it hails i'll run find an empty covered spot and sit in the car, I dont want to get towed. I bet w/ all the vegetation you get alot of pollen and such. Do you have alot of allergies? Hoping it starts warming there for you. Take good care.
  7. Ouch, your foot ok? Not broken is it? How does it look, all black and blue? Did you ice it? Take it easy, wrapping is good. Do you by chance have a pair of crutches or anything to use? Other than the vacuum. Hopefully some good movies on since you'll be elevating it. Your pollen is insane. I guess spring is coming. So much plantlife. No ide what we run but its nowhere near that. I used to get sinus bad, even as recent as 5 or 6 years back some nights id lay down and my sinuses would be like cement. Benadryl helped at times. now i hesitate to take it since it dries me out. Somesay too much can help cause dementia, some say thats false. Ive read that bad sleep patterns help cause dementia, in which case im in risk. My old neighbors...the wife had surgery for her back. the calcium was filling in and pressuring her nerve and had been causing alot of problems. they told her if she had waited a few more days it could have had very serious consequences. She had a great doctor and they cleaned out the buildup and she was walking same day. I have to admit there are some wonderful doctors out there. its just hard to know who they are. UHC never notified me either. ATT was just breached, or rather as i read it a breach from a couple years ago was found again. I hope that anyone who gets their identity stolen starts suing these companies. My doctors office network called today to let me know my PCP is same as it was and she has taken a promotion and works out of town now. I told her that between them and my ins company ive gotten several letters and theyve totally screwed it up. She wanted to give me to the bozo who just started ordering things for me w/out my permission and i told her i refuse to see him. So I have a choice of two other doctors and I will decide and call my ins company. She wanted to do a third party call with my Ins company. Am I not capable of making a phonecall now? If this is how they see me I need to get far away from them. I was very bad today, i ate a 3 musketeers bar. Ill pay for it. Dinner was great tho, made a turkey salad, added nuts and almonds and raisins. Going to need to replant my plants on the patio. Im having to water them every 1-2 days. So when it really does get warm they wont survive. Take good care of yourself. please be careful when you go out.
  8. You're very welcome, just sorry I had no solution. Sadly ive forgotten most of the IT I learned. i miss it. Was fun stuff and wish now I had continued. I think it would have been easier to break in to the field but the pay would have been marginal and advancement probably nonexistent considering my age and experience. But maybe i could study again and at least have a chance for freelance on the side. Thanks for the cookie recipe, ill have to try that. At one time Dad had mom's old old Presbyterian Cookbook that was a few generations old. Ithad Grandma's recipes in it. My brother, who was all about 'heirlooms' had no interest in it. I understood itsvalue and wanted it to matter. A cousin in Maine asked for it so i gave it to her. When I told Dad what I wanted to do he ot mad at me, because he said it wasnt mine to give, it was his. I explained i just wanted it to go to someone who appreciated it. Later he gave it to me and I sent it to my cousin. I had copied down some recipes and sent to my brother's wife. sadly I didnt save recipes for me. Hadnt baked for years at that point. Wished id just saved the book for myself, but I didnt want to save things for myself. I felt since i was handling the estate i couldnt do that. later i realized my mistake and got to save some memories. Expensive things meant nothing to me. Pictures, family histories, Mom's Bible that her Mother gave her, her NRA card lol. Didnt know what to do with dads old uniforms. He was buried in one of his Am Air flight uniforms. He was a member of a flight club and loved them dearly, so he was holdin their ballcap in his hands. Sorry, been that kind of day. Supposed to be organizing things so i stop being lazy but im pushing that off. I've been tired and burned out and trying to light the fire again before its too late. Hope this week goes well, after our rain last night we 'only' get up in the low 60s. i know you'd love to have that so will push it your way. Take care
  9. Thanks for the recipe, ill see if we have all that at the store. Someone here is using the community grill and smoking beef and it smells so good. I think I need to get some deli smoked beef and turkey tomorrow. i usually dont because its expensive but rt now id go to the store if they were open. So the forests were managed by the logging companies before? And 3 years ago the govt took over and messed it up. Typical. We can hope that things are better this Spring. I went in to my health Ins website to order vitamins because the quarterly allowance ends tomorrow. but they got hacked and that part isnt working. poked around and found a section w/ all my health issues. there are some in there that arent true. like urinary problems reported on 3.23...thats after my surgery healed and ive had zero urinary issues since surgery. They listed long-term medications and i dont take anything, only meds ive been given was related to the prostate and surgery and since that was done no meds. It says a liver disease and I was never diagnosed with a liver disease. I really dont want to have to change insurances but....and i am guessing the doctors send that in to the Ins Company...that will be the last nail in the coffin for them. God help me if i get sick cause there will be no one to go see. I had posted about your passwords on Reddit but got no answers. I have not found that resource to be very helpful lately. We got rain tonight, and a fierce short storm at the beginning. My first thought was free water for the lawn and lower my water bill. But thats no longer my worry. I just enjoy the cooler weather. I got pumpkin chocolate chip cookies, bad i know. And i realised why i like those so much. they taste just like the cookies Mom used to make from Grandma's recipe. Hoping you get some good sleep again. And warmer weather. Take good care.
  10. Well done on the cake i'd say. That little guy looks like he is about to devour that cake in one bite. Oh boy i bet he was so happy. My innards are coming around now. Tweaked my diet a bit and got a little exercise. I really want a 3musketeers bar right now but they arent good for me. When i feel weak I imagine walking in to the doctor's office. And that ends that. Its been in the 40s at night a few nights so to be safe i brought my plants in and the jasmine really makes the apt smell good. Its going to be near Spring now. I can spend some time on the balcony. Theres no plug outside but i can run an extension cord from inside and work on my laptop and play the ballgame on the radio. There's no way for me to watch Baseball that i know of without buying something. And I want to keep bills low as possible. Thats pretty sad to me so I still have the radio. How are Kodie and Panther doing? i was going to ask if you ever buy them dog and cat toys but Panther can probably hunt down his own toys. I'm such a big spender. Got a new baseball cap, a Cub's cap. I also have Dad's old Rangers cap. And i bought a couple tshirts. From the numbers i'm crunching I should be in good shape for a long time. But then prices will go way up so no telling how bad that planning will be ruined. At this point if I make $1000 a month im fine and then some. i dont see being able to get a great paying job in the time I have left. Im hoping you folks get a warming trend that brings Spring and ends the snow. i guess i didnt ask the weatherman the proper way last time. My old neighbors, the wife had surgery for her nerves in her back. They channels were getting closed up with calcium deposits and it made it hard for her to walk and was painful. So they went in and cored it out. Two days later she's walking without help and no painkillers. One of her nurses told her the surgeon is the best in the region for this kind of procedure, very thorough. Expecting her to recover and be much better walking. Going to the grocery store this weekend. Going to avoid sugar and baked goods. maximize green stuff and nuts and get some more chicken. And popcorn. I think thats supposed to be safe as long as you dont add butter and all. And more pickles. When my Mom was a little girl she and her best friend would spend Saturdays at the movies and each had a big pickle and a coke. Dinner lately has been beef or chicken and a nice salad and a couple small pickles. Isnt my life exciting lol. Oh well, i'll take this peace and quiet though. So how are you feeling, how are all the aches and pains? Does it get better once winter is over and no more shoveling and maintaining firewood? take good care and stay warm.
  11. Yes, my brother is a narcissist. he always thinks he knows best even though his advice is always wrong. I used to give it an ear and research it just to see but with his tracj record I just let it go. Like spending 10-15k on a bootcamp for UX...waste of money for many reasons it doesnt work for me. Maybe if I was a young man, sure. It's like the corporate loonies at Target and Walgreens when i worked at those places. 'We have the perfect plan, you cant fail. If you succeed its because we have the perfect plan, if you fail its because you didnt follow the plan properly.' anyway, I have more pressing issues. Been battling constipation off and on since surgery. Lately been a real issue and now im afraid its got me. I just dont get enough exercise I guess. Im trying some mineral oil and fiber capsules. The last thing I want is to go to the doctor, who may or may not see me and will use it as an excuse to do alot of the things they do to us old guys. Bought some plants yesterday and boy are they ever expensive now, lol. I still want a few more. I got a jasmine, in bloom. Two tropical ferns and a rosebush in bloom. Jasmine I planted at my old house years back and the rosebush is in memory of my folks. I want a few hanging baskets and a couple long planters for flowers and pumpkin. Give up coffee? I used to joke about never giving it up but I have temporarily. You have to have a few things to enjoy in life. Four feet of snow, wow. I bet Arlie was awesome. One of those guys who just got things done and didnt complain. These days alot of guys wouldnt even try. One thing I appreciate about my part of Tx is we dont normally get alot of snow. Id like to get some to be pretty to look at but not thst much. You do so well taking care of things with your snow. Microsoft sets Windows to do alot of things for us. Im sure theyd love to make it do everything, no matter what we want. I dont trust them at all. I think perhaps Kodie is a blessing for you. He's looking out for you and keeping you company. Panther has the life. A cozy place to sleep and a nice meal and gets to go roam around at night. I wonder if he hunts the yard and keeps the vermin away. Some people are still on older Windows like 8 or even 7. The bad thing is they no longer do security updates, so if the bad guys find a way to exploit 7 it wont be fixed. Im still on 10 simpy because everytime I upgrade everything makes a mess. I dont trust easily. This from a friend of mine upon me describing that something good is missing from life 'Def understand and feel it as well. The difference is now we are the elders and now realize that as adults we were always the ones who make it what it is. Everything is up to us to choose when or how life moments are special. As children we were the fortunate ones who had good parents who made it possible and did their best to make it happen and keep it that way. That is what we are missing - love. Now it is up to us. It is time for us to love our selves. '....I miss my folks, I miss the good days and they are gone. When i have a chance and the days get warm i'll take a pic of my plants to show. I dont expect theyll get real big but the jasmine I can smell thru my bedroom window if i open it. make me want to get another one. My balcony faces east so it gets the morning and noon light and then shade during the heat of day. If they need more shade I can move them close to the apt. Do you ever crave foods you shouldnt have? I resisted the 3musketeers craving at the store but got a frozen pizza. Ate one slice and tossed it, gross. I liked the mini tacos that come frozen when I was a kid. hadnt had em for years so one day tried em again, gross and greasy. You cant go back. My dad always had trouble liking food. It either wasnt made right or didnt taste right. I thought it was his sense of taste going away. but maybe it was also that they dont make it the same or as well anymore. Are you folks at the point the snow is letting up? When does it start to warm up? Hoping our week ahead is nice and quiet. take good care.
  12. Spent the last day and a half trying to fix this laptop with limited success. I had thought it was just the browser and switched away from Chrome. It had become very slow and wouldnt load pages, right after an update. But still having 'some' performance issues on the new browser. I scan every night with malwarebytes and its always clean. Ill try scanning with a different one to be safe. hate to get a new laptop as this one should be fine. Still sleep issues. I wake up at 6-7 usually and have trouble falling back. but mainly i just toss and turn all night. I always have but never this bad. i wake up halfway and fall asleep again. After being awake a few hours I feel ok but after i first wakeup i feel like crud. Wow, you got alot of snow. i vaguely remember as a kid outside Chicago we got alot but not as much as you have. I cant understand people anymore. Its like suddenly they dont know how to behave, theyre so selfish and thoughtless. Someone should be coming over to shovel that for you not making it worse. headed to the grocery store tomorrow if it kills me. It did rain all afternoon but still. I do love a good rain, the clouds and the cool weather, love it. Unless its real windy i should be able to sit on my balcony and watch the rain. The neighbors will think im crazy lol. Pardon me if any of this Ive told before. talked to a girl at the tax atty office. My Dad's tax guy too retirement finally, great guy. This was a junior partner. i love how everyone gives me the junior partner, because im old and because they dont remember me. She was very nice but didnt seem to know much, had to run sk some questions. But in the end told me no need to file taxes this year. next year i will tho. Finally got my refund from the mortgage company. Our Bluejays were bullies, hogging the birdbath and sitting in the trees screaming at everyone. I will miss the birds. When i was studying IT i took an old laptop apart. never do that again. Some say its easy and some say its the biggest pain in IT. I side with the latter. The space is too small and packed and its not made to work on. I think they push too much to make them small and thin. make them easy to work on and upgrade. but we live in a disposable world. easier to make em disposable i guess. Waste of money for consumers though. this laptop was about $650 and I can try and wipe it and reinstall windows and chrome or just buy a new one. I also like how Windows is pushing me again to go to Win 11... :(...it keeps downloading things for an update during the time its not supposed to. You know i never considered you might get so much snow that you couldnt get food. They need a system to help. Hope it lets up and you get to go. Maybe I can send a package of food. Or can you order from Amazon? Sorry you missed your friend's memorial. You can say some words. I try to remind myself to celebrate their life and the love they gave and the good times. its hard at times. I feel sorry for kids these days. When they get to be our age who will have told them how to understand life. We could but they wouldnt listen. I think each successive generation understands less about life and this one seems lost. Sometimes i feel that i failed miserably. But so far...im here and my brother has his money. Still have a couple things to do before its all done but the main things are. Sadly, i dont hear from my brother anymore, not even email. Thats probably for the best. But I think i've understood a few things. Guess we will see. Yes your DIL is nuts as can be. She sounds very self absorbed to the point of using people. Why doesnt she come down and shovel your driveway one time. Lol Thank you for the videos, i'll watch them tonight. I think I may never come to peace with my Life and maybe the secret is just accepting that. It is what it is and time to move on. Hope you get some nice warmer weather, get some groceries and a rest from shoveling. Take good care of yourself and Kodie and Panther.
  13. I 'think' the exemption is federal. I suggested my brother ask his taxguy to look in his records and make sure the 1099-s was voided, as the Title company couldnt print it out. Wow, thats WAY too much snow. Ive always loved snow since a kid outside Chicago, but thats just too much. You do fantastic for anyone, regardless of age. Hoping thats the last big snow of winter for you. Taxes are such a big 'IF'. If theyre filled out right, if the irs accepts them, if the check doesnt get lost in the mail. Hope yours turn out well. I talked to an acct at my tax office and she says no need to file this year. next year will have to tho cause thats what the house sale is on. Amazon...yep, Ive started ordering big myself. Why have to keep getting something you use all the time. One big order and you'll always have em. Slowly doing the same with my pantry. Goingto the store is dangerous because I impulse shop. Then at home I realise I dont want to spend alot of time cooking. Ive gotten lazy i guess. Bluejays must think theyre in charge. Ours were the same way. I hope the new owners appreciate birds and set up a feeder and birdbath. The almanac has been right for us, a warmer winter. Supposed to be wet but a bit off there. Cali got a cold cold front they say. Im guessing you're getting lots of snow as part of whatever caused that. I just hope summer isnt too hot. Elec will go thru the roof. Im kind of surprised my folks never got a wood burning stove. I guess since they had the fireplace they didnt need it. I struggle to remember better times and not the end and to forgive myself. Eh, sorry to sound sad but its a struggle. Sounds like your laptop is ok. I would think if it was going to go bas it would have done so right away. Ive heard for cellphones if you drop them in water put them in a container of salt, pulls off the moisture. never tried it tho. I think i'd cry if I dropped brownies fresh from the oven. At least no one got cut or glass. One of the ladies at work one time brought brownies and no one wanted any. I loved em and she gave me the entire pan. I was a happy guy lol. Im going to ask the weatherman to please give you folks a break. Maybe a week or two with no snow, maybe some warm weather too. I was going to close dad's old bank acct but decided to wait and see if the mortgage company can get a check to me this time. If not im going to ask them to just wire it back into that acct. I never like checks in the mail, they get lost or stolen. I have 'informed delivery' where usps scans all my letters and they never scanned a check. I doubt ill ever see that money but will try. If it takes too long ill close the acct. Everything that was coming out of it is cancelled but I dont want someone to make a mistake and do it anyway. Panther must be fine where he goes or he wouldnt go there. Hoping you get some better weather and some peace and quiet. Take good care of yourself and stay warm.
  14. The reason i set up the house the way i did and i hope my brother appreciates it. I owned it and sold it. So the tax burden is on me. but...if you live in the home as primary residence 2 of the last 5 years before the sale you get a 250,000 dollar allowance on capital gains. There was an increase in value but way below 250,000...so there will be no taxing the money from the sale of the house. The half I sent my brother was a gift, no tax for either of us. I talked to a nice lady at our tax attys office today and she verified this and checked and i dont need to file this year. But I will for next year. Kodie knows he has a good mom who loves and spoils him. Lol. He needs some treats because he misses his friend. And its winter so he doesnt play as much? I wonder where Panther goes. he must have a place thats warm. maybe a small crack that lets a bit of heat out. he'd love the dryer vent. The dryer vent on the old house...there was a vent hose opening in the wall behind that was filled up. the dryer vented into the garage. they put pantyhose over the opening in the garage to catch all the lint. The new owners had a hose run up throughthe roof. Apparently they had a ton of work done, so they must have some money. nice people I think. Im sorry for all the abuse you went through. That man must have been crazy. But you survived and found peace. For all the troubles you've had in life you turned out to be a really good person. Doctors..I agree, before they drop someone they should send notice. my GI doc got a order for a colonoscopy for me from my PCP right in the middle of the house sale. I ignored it all and it made me mad. The GI office sent a couple letters asking me to make an appt but i ignored it. The third letter said 'last chance'. I wasnt told about it, I didnt ask for it. That was the PCPs fault and not mine. But im probably not welcome there anymore and thats fine. I really like that doctor. But when my other PCO thought my test results were gall bladder sludge the guy just ignored it. then later he wanted to do an ultrasound. I didnt see the point when he ignored it in the first place. I'll need my PCO eventually and if they wont see me i'll file a conplaint and find a new doctor. I understand the preventative medicine idea but after 7 years of bad things i just want to be left alone. I also notice they are only concerned about what they care about and not what i am concerned about. my last blood tests my old PCP said i should be concerned about my sugars and something else. But then didnt explain nor talk about how to make anything better. maybe because when she asked if i ate fish twice a week i said i was a fishstick kind of guy. Anyway, I cant trust them. At least you started cleaning, established that momentum. That year will pass before you know it and you'll be done. Im the opposite of my folks, i dont keep alot. I have many boxes now but when I think its safe to do so alot of records are being shredded. We're cold tomorrow with a chance of rain. i think i'll stay in and make some chili or tacos. Im trying to avoid cheese but i have some Pimiento to put on my tacos. Mom grew up eating Pimiento cheese sammiches. i never reallygave em a change until a year ago. i really like em. Wish i had figured that out while she was here. Tragic how I wish i could go back and do things over the right way. But theres no do overs in life. I think you have one advantage over alot of people here. If you lose electricity you still have heat. Many folks here would be very cold. There's at least a couple dove here and some crows. i hear them sometimes. At the old house there were alot of both. Then a couple hawks started flying the neighborhood and the doves hid. The people across the street had a huge tree where alot of crows lived. The folks next to them complained its roots might be ruining their foundation. It wasnt even close to the property line. Then mysteriously that tree died and was cut down. Alot of crows had to move. What kinds of birds do you get up there? Take good care, stay warm and hopefully a nice quiet end of the week.
  15. I had a Qol drug my surgeon prescribed me and he stopped refilling it and nothing from them as to why. No, 'well talk to your pcp'. Thought about that tonight and i wonder if ive been ignored from the network and I wont be able to get medical care. Which makes me very angry because ive been lied to, sent things I didnt know about, set up for tests i didnt know about. I feel like i cant get medical help now. I'll have to see about changing providers but I 'think' theyre all in the same network so if teyve blacklisted me id have to change my provider. Talked to my escrow agent at the Title company today, very unhappy with them. They totally dropped the ball with negligence on several points. Mom and Dad were on the house Deed. When Mom passed Dad said he didnt need to do anything. But we couldnt make a ladybird Deed to pass the house to me with Mom on it, she couldnt sign it. So we went to court and did a muniment of title. That effectively probated the Will for the house only and took her off the deed. Then Dad and I set up the ladybird deed. Escrow agent admitted that in any case they shouldnt have sent bro a 1099-s form and she said she voided it...I dont trust her. So when we sold the house, from what she said, they didnt see the muniment of title records online so they approached it as Mom and Dad were co owners and the muniment served only to pass to me dads share. So bro got Moms share and hence why, supposedly, they sent him a 1099-s. yet they sent mine for the entire payout on the house and him for his half. I explained that you cant do a ladybird w/out doing the muniment of title. The opening sentence even says that the named is sole owner. They never asked me or mentioned the issue. She admitted today the issue was they didnt have the muniment of title. Its a matter of court record. And if they had we never would have had problems. i was not told of any of these issues. they just dropped the ball and tripped over it. This 'should' mean my bro doesnt have to include his share as income because it was my house and my income and what he got was a gift from me. Anyway, thats next years taxes so will worry then. But very dissapointed with them. They couldnt even admit they screwed up. I trust no one anymore and in the future will explain things in excrutiating detail so it doesnt happen again, take nothing for granted. Talked to the apt mgr and am allowed to do plants, planters, hanging baskets. Yeay. Ive read this many reputable places online but will verify with taxguy. That because i lived in the home for at least 2 of the last 5 years as primary residence i get 250,000 dollar exemption from capital gains, meaning id owe no taxes on sale. But thats next years taxes. 2023 is my social security and the estate auction income, which I should only need to pay taxes on capital gains and the auction company said i didnt have any, everything sold at a loss. But I need to talk to taxguy to make sure I dont need to file forms and will ask about my brother's form for next year. I hope he's still working. if not they have several others. The house was indeed in my name so showing all the proceeds on mine was correct. I visited my old neighbors yesterday and they are well. I peeked over the fence and they really have been working. Theyve cleaned out all the ivy groundcover, a big grill and furniture on the pation and in the corner where I had cleared it out they have two chairs and a small table. Theyre really going to enjoy the yard. The power pole in the corner of the back yard had been leaning for years. The power company had come and put a new pole in, but havent taken the old one out yet. The new one is alot taller, so the lines are high above the trees. because they chopped all the trees waaay back from the lines and way down. My old neighbors said they almost cried. theres a huge tree in their corner that got chopped but it needed it. My old neighbors on the other side i also talked with. they are very sweet and are starting to have issues. they have one son and some grandkids in town who say they'll help but are always too busy. I may run over when it warms up and help them plant some flowers. They always would want to pay when id help but nah, I dont do it for money and never will. Those two couple should get together sometime, but both have bad mobility so its hard to do. Would be fun to get everyone together and go out to lunch. It was 70s or 80 today, real nice. 54 tomorrow and then back to normal. I know when summer hits we're supposed to have a hot one so my elec bill will go way up. Honestly, im always amazed at how tough you are, all the work you do, alot of it out in the cold. I figure you dont have any choice and have to do what you have to do. yes you must be in good shape for all that. i just wish it werent so tough sometimes. I guess i dont have doctors anymore. I always thought a doctor was there when ya needed help, got sick. But seems like im here to serve them and jumpo at their beck and call and if i dont they get mad and send me letters saying 'last chance'. It shouldnt be that way. they shouldnt just ghost me without saying anything. if they now refuse to help me they should sned a letter so when I need help i can have a new doctor set up. I just really feel cutoff and alone now. I just hope and pray i dont ever have issues. Went to close my dads old bank acct. There was a long wait so i left. Banks dont seem to serve us either, we live to give them our money. Chase, Ill get the acct closed then will never use them again. Ill send prayers your way for decent weather, no outages and nothing crazy. maybe a few days of peace and quiet and rest. Panther is a survivor and it sounds like he has found ways to stay alive/warm. Take good care of yourself. Toss kodie a treat for me.
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