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And just to clarify, I have not shared any of my thoughts with my friend. You are correct that she's a grown-up but that doesn't mean I'm not concerned about her. I have never been in this situation, so thought that people here could give me some guidance. 

21 minutes ago, Kieron said:

Sorry to be blunt, but what you think doesn't apply, here.  You can best push her away by telling her something like this.  On the flip side, you can best support her by remembering she's a grown-up, it's her decision, and it's her life, and if she wants your input, she will ask for it.  If I were in your shoes, I'd keep my thoughts to myself while at the same time, making it clear you are there for her no matter what she chooses.  And just so it's clear, I was in her shoes for a brief few days, about 6 months after Mark passed away.  Thankfully I came to my senses and realized it would be a mistake for me to get involved with someone new.

Unfortunately the man is being the aggressor in this situation and I feel like she is being taken advantage of. She did contact him first, but he has been very aggressive as far as doing things together. 

4 hours ago, Gwenivere said:

You say you are concerned about her mental health.  This I do know, her process will be her own.  Tread lightly.  

That is why I'm asking how to support her. I don't want to push her away, but at the same time, I don't think immediately getting in touch with someone she had feelings for in the past is the way to go either.

My friend (age 40) suddenly lost her husband (age 41) on Jan 9th. It was very unexpected and was the result of some unknown medical issues he had.

She began texting a man she knows on Jan 20th. She had wanted to have a relationship with him in the past, before her marriage. He was not ready at the time because of a divorce and she moved on. Within about 6 weeks of her husband's death, she and this man began doing things together with both sets of children. She says this is ok because they were friends in the past and the children knew each other when they were younger. I am concerned about her mental state and that she may be avoiding going through the grieving process by replacing her spouse with this man. Should I be concerned and how can I support my friend? I feel like she is relying too heavily on this one person and I don't want her to end up hurt more deeply in all this.