Accident...an accident occurs when a normal activity or action has negative results which were totally unintended. The tragic death of your Cruella resulted from a normal activity of loading the dryer. You have done it many times in the past and the result was always as intended...you dried the clothes. This time something went wrong...an accident occurred.
Guilt is a term that I reserve for an intentional act that results in damage, destruction or even death. It is an act completed with full intent to cause damage, destruction or death. Unless you intentionally placed Cruella in the dryer, unless you intentionally shut the door to harm her then you have no guilt. You cannot claim guilt although you may try to put guilt upon yourself by thinking what if, why didn't I, if only, etc. We can second guess forever and drag ourselves into the depths claiming guilt and damnation. You did the right thing at the right time with the knowledge that you had available to you. Marcella, this is not guilt...this is a tragic accident.
I have been facilitating a grief support group for human death and also a pet bereavement group for years and guilt is something that will leave you stuck in grief. Yes, now you are grieving and this is normal. Where there was love there is now grief. Cruella gave you unconditional love and you returned the same to her. She would not put blame on you and she would not want you to blame yourself. Move forward with your life cherishing the precious memories that you and Cruella made together. I believe in the Rainbow Bridge because I want to. That is all the proof I need to know that God's creatures who shared love with me will be there to greet me when it is my time to cross the bridge. The greatest tribute you can make for Cruella is to move forward always remembering all the great times you shared.
Accident...an accident occurs when a normal activity or action has negative results which were totally unintended. The tragic death of your Cruella resulted from a normal activity of loading the dryer. You have done it many times in the past and the result was always as intended...you dried the clothes. This time something went wrong...an accident occurred. Guilt is a term that I reserve for an intentional act that results in damage, destruction or even death. It is an act completed with full intent to cause damage, destruction or death. Unless you intentionally placed Cruella in the dryer, unless you intentionally shut the door to harm her then you have no guilt. You cannot claim guilt although you may try to put guilt upon yourself by thinking what if, why didn't I, if only, etc. We can second guess forever and drag ourselves into the depths claiming guilt and damnation. You did the right thing at the right time with the knowledge that you had available to you. Marcella, this is not guilt...this is a tragic accident. I have been facilitating a grief support group for human death and also a pet bereavement group for years and guilt is something that will leave you stuck in grief. Yes, now you are grieving and this is normal. Where there was love there is now grief. Cruella gave you unconditional love and you returned the same to her. She would not put blame on you and she would not want you to blame yourself. Move forward with your life cherishing the precious memories that you and Cruella made together. I believe in the Rainbow Bridge because I want to. That is all the proof I need to know that God's creatures who shared love with me will be there to greet me when it is my time to cross the bridge. The greatest tribute you can make for Cruella is to move forward always remembering all the great times you shared.
