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20 hours ago, Gwenivere said:
Tina, I’m another with no kids and left with the total emptiness. At the timeline you’re in, the feelings an actions are 'normal' and valid. I had just over 30 years with my husband. I remember very clearly the shock and attacks of grief. Sobbing, screaming, lack of breath. Triggers obvious and sneaky. It is a day by day, often hour by hour struggle. Even sleep is influenced. I think if you stay in this 'club' none of us want to be in, you’ll find all of us understand your new world. We’re all living with our lives ripped apart. Even having family is tough on them. They are fighting different grief by their relationship. Child, brother, parent. We all need people that speak this new language of losing our best friend.
Hi Gwenivere. Thanks for your sweet note and I am sorry for your loss too. It’s a daily struggle, I am busy with work some days more than others, then I think I have no one to talk about work day like we both did in evenings. I don’t sleep good at all, I end up taking shorts naps during day when I can.
I try to have a plan for the weekend to get me out of house and just moving. It’s sooo hard. As you mentioned with family there are struggles too. I am doing a zoom call with my sister and nieces tomorrow which I look forward to. My husband loved the nieces and always played with them.
take care
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21 hours ago, nashreed said:
Hello Tina,
I recently found this forum and find that, after 5 months, it's important to have people that understand. Me and my wife were a team- we never needed anybody else, because we loved each others company. Now, I find I have such a hole in my life, such loneliness. But, it helps that there are people here that are friends. It is a day by day struggle, but post here- it helps! And listen to music- it's a great healer.
Thanks Nashreed. I agree with u in that it helps having friends. I like to read mystery novels and watch tv, that helps some. I’ll cook or bake too. I am sorry for your loss. I know that it’s not easy at all.
take care
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22 hours ago, Kieron said:
Welcome, and I am also sorry that the loss is so fresh and is now hitting you hard. It tends to do that. One moment you think you're okay enough to just keep going and then blammo, you're right in the thick of it, unable to see through the water in your eyes or breathe through the gasping sobs. I used to say "I can't believe he is gone" probably hundreds of times by now, and still do it, now and again. I'm back to wondering what I'm going to do with our place, especially now that it's dark earlier and we just had a big snowstorm, and there's no one else here but the cat for company.
As Ana says, this is a compassionate site and indeed we "get it," here.
Hi Kieran. Thank you for your sweet note. Snowstorm already ! You must be out west. I don’t like it getting dark early at all, gets more depressing. I say the same thing to myself “ I can’t believe this “ or I think maybe he went somewhere and is coming back, which I know is not true but I’ll tell myself that. I just never thought I would be alone this early in life but I guess there is no real time frame for death.
take care
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22 hours ago, scba said:
Hello Tina. I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm too living alone and I don't have kids either. Nights are very hard. It's been long for me but today, I've been sobbing all night because sometimes It hits me hard and I'm all lost again.
It's really one day at a time. You and I and all of us here have made it through today, and we'll make it tomorrow.
This is a compassionate site. We understand how you're feeling.
Hi. Thank you for your sweet email and I am sorry for your loss too. What are some of your hobbies? Are you in NC? Do you go out with friends ?
I try to make plans for weekends but I have a couple coming up and no plans, I am just going to go to a craft store in morning.
I agree with u on it being difficult.
take care
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Hello , my name is Tina. I lost my husband a little over 3 months ago unexpectedly. Everyday is a struggle but yesterday was the worst or so it seeemed. I can’t believe he is gone , we talked about doing so many things when we retire. We were married close to 26 years , it’s such a big adjustment living alone, no kids. The evenings are a struggle.
at times I don’t even know how I am functioning.- 5
Losing my husband
in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
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Hi Kayc. Thank you very much for your sweet note and pointers to help me get through this. I am sorry for your loss and you also lost your husband as he was young. Life is busy for my friends , family as I have to find things to keep me going when I am not working. I love to watch to, read novels , I like paper crafting, so that’s on my list for tomorrow. I am trying to cook on weekends too.
Thank you very much again.
take care