Danni f

2 hours ago, Agemgem said:

 

Agemgem.❤❤❤

2 hours ago, Agemgem said:

 

3 hours ago, Rjm said:

Hi Danni f. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dog. I feel such pain over my cat that I think it would be even more difficult grieving over a dog. I hope I don't make you feel worst in any way. It is so, so HARD. I was so distraught that I found a therapist that specializes in grief and losing a pet. She has been helping me. I also downloaded about 4 books on grief and loss of a pet. I don't think I will ever get over losing Rocky. He was my best friend. Always there with unconditional love. And I did not want to give up on him but it hurt me to see him suffer. And it left me full of guilt. I know what you mean when you say you feel like you can't let go. I don't want to let go. I do not want to push Rocky aside or forget him, but I have learned that you never will really let go. I have read that there is always a sadness and emptiness over the place they had in your heart. It was so special. Nothing can replace them. When I am feeling overwhelmed with sadness I let myself cry and grieve and just tell myself that my feelings are ok. But I also tell myself that if others can move on and not be as sad over the death of a spouse or child or a dog, then I can also. I think you have to force yourself everyday to do something to take care of yourself. I don't think you have given yourself enough time. There is no timeline. Everyone grieves differently. And it is ok for you to miss him. The pain is like no other. But I was just trying to give you some hope. It helps to get a therapist and read about grief. Don't give up or tell yourself you are nutty. If you force yourself to get up everyday and go on with your life then you are moving on. It's baby steps. It is one day at a time. I've never felt so alone at times since I lost Rocky. You don't have to let go, but try and love yourself like he loved you.

Rjm.beautiful words.❤

Just now, Danni f said:

 

Thank you sukimumma.❤

Time isn't healing my broken heart.I list my dog fisher on September 11 2020.he was almost 15 yrs old.actually I feel worse as time goes by.almost like my mind was in shock and now reality set in.I feel angry and I drive by the vets everyday thinking I could have done more.he was old and had slot of issues but I did not want to give up.I did not want him to suffer.but isn't it goes plan,do we have that right to put our animals to sleep. I can't seem to let that go.I had almost 15 wonderful years with fisher.I am grateful and I will hold my memories in my heart always.I just feel I cant step over this,its like I can't let go.I don't want to feel sad all the time.I hate when people tell me in time you will you will heal.I have not.I miss him so much.I don't feel I can ever have another dog,I just can't face this type of grief again.I feel I'm one of the nutty ones lol that just can't move forward.I truly don't know how to move on.