Roxi

It's a relief Kay to know that you can go home...! And can help Panther Kitty tambien...i don't know the word 'burr" and when i translate it i was stunning....🙃

Take care of you and your little ones

Take care of you Kay and your little friends...,hope Panther kitty is safe in some way...i don't know how life can be so awful sometimes! Hugs Roxi

1 hour ago, MartyT said:

Why do we feel collective grief for the Queen? A sentence you’re likely to hear a lot right now: ‘I didn’t expect to feel so upset.’ But there’s good reason why you might feel more affected by the news than you anticipated, whether you consider yourself a royalist or not."  Collective grief: what you need to know + how to deal with it

Thank you MartyT for this explanation...now i can understand what it was effectively incomprehensible for me

7 minutes ago, V. R. said:

I did spend the first 26 years of my life in London

Adesso capisco perche' scrivi in inglese perfetto...

5 minutes ago, Boho-Soul said:

Hey, no bad feelings Roxi ♥️

I just like to get clarity when people share things, in person or online, so I can gain understanding and don't misinterpret or take things the wrong way.

The same for me Boho. I appreciate that my feelings are understand and i want that people can says their opinions...take care Roxi😻

5 minutes ago, Boho-Soul said:

Wasn't clear to me. The way you worded your comment in your initial post does not clearly say what you are meaning. Mentioning the queen's death and how 64 million poor children can't go to school in the same sentence made it hard to understand what you were referring to, at least to me. You did not say the info was sourced from an Italian newspaper which stated poor children can't go to school in your first post and I didn't see how the two topics were related. Your second post 5 minutes ago gave more clarity.

Sorry Boho...i thought it was clear!

41 minutes ago, Boho-Soul said:

Thx VR, I didn’t think of that perspective as the comment didn’t clearly state that.

What other meaning can have my sentence ? Clearly it refers to the millions of children so poor that can't go to school and have to work to help their families! italian newspaper wrote that they are 64 millions in the world...

6 hours ago, Boho-Soul said:

She was a mother, grandmother, great-grandmother - she had family, have empathy for them

Really ? Millions of women are mother grandmother etc. in the worst living conditions...they are the true heroins!

I bet she never changed a diaper to her sons with the Army of nurses and babysitters under her command! 

And anyway i didn't say she has not feelings as any other human being! I don"t think it's exceptional in her case...without all the others problems that can complicate a life like have or not a work, have enough money to feed your family and so on...what she had to do ? Even not have empathy for her family ?

4 hours ago, V. R. said:

There are so many non-monarchists among the British, that's for sure, who literally detest the royals,

I consider monarchies a grotesque inheritance of the past, and i can't really understand why a great democracy as Great Britain need to maintain a royal family!

Except that now it became economical interesting with theirs telenovelas of sumptous marriages,divorces, hidden lovers , and a miserable case of sexual abuse...

I want to mourn great women and men who made this world better...for istance Mr. Gorbaciov died some days ago. He allowed freedom in differents country of East Europe, he refused to intervene militarily that is a tradition in his country as the tragical and horrible war in Ukraina prove, he did a lot to stop nuclear weapons and finally he pushed to destroy a symbol of hatred like Berlin wall...

But yet he was almost forgotten while tons of words are spent for this "Queen" who were not ashamed of wear on his head, on his neck, on his hands jewels diamonds as my mom would say "la Madonna incoronata", the value of wich can give a chance to the children that not only can't go to school but don't have something to eat everyday...

6 hours ago, kayc said:

A great lady.

Yes maybe...it was easy for her to be great! ...she undeniably lived a privileged life of 96 years without problems and worries....with the news of her death there was the news that says that 64 millions of children in the world cannot go to school...what we are talking about ?

Hope to no offende anyone but i can't join the choir

8 hours ago, Boho-Soul said:

He was so creative and funny, he could always make me laugh. God I miss that

Boho-soul this was my loved one....the world has become an empty and boring place without him!

I always expect to hear again his laugh..to come back to life!

God i miss that too!!!

Oh Kay i’m so sorry for tour loss...life is truly unpredictable!

A huge hug Roxi

Ana there is a very good book from a spanish writer...Rosa Montero...i know the title in italian: "la ridicola idea di non vederti più" (the ridicolous idea to not see you anymore)

I love it!

11 hours ago, V. R. said:

Why him? Why me? Why us? 

Enza these are the questions no one can answer...and we keep  asking them!...answer them is like to answer "what's life ? What's death ?" 

They arise from our excruciating pain....

I tried to find answers and  some peace and one of the book that helped me is "l'anno del pensiero magico" di Joan Didion...the writer lost her husband as you in a sudden heart attack...

If you haven't read it yet, it can give you some comfort and understanding!

Un forte abbraccio hugs Roxi

3 hours ago, V. R. said:

 

I also love our great Italian songwriters/singers:

Enza i add Franco Battiato.."La Cura" ...it's our song! 

"Perché sei un essere speciale ed io avrò cura di te"

"'Cos you are a special person and I'll take care of you"

2 hours ago, nashreed said:

And it's so sad that all of them are so old.

Very sad....paraphrasing Dylan they should have stayed "Forever young"!

I like Dylan..even in the mumbling thing! The music that excites me the most is  r'n'r...Springsteen Mellencamp Rolling Stones Patty Smith and others...i saw many concerts with thousands of people...it seem strange in time of covid that we had that ease of being all together !😒

13 hours ago, scba said:

while us have directly reached to the end of the journey and you are dealing with something soooo painful and soooo devastating.

Yes Ana...now i understand!

I am really sorry you have to go on this painful path so young...I don't know why life is so unfair...

10 hours ago, Gwenivere said:

Because it didn’t for them

We struggle to understand that nothing has really changed for them...our world has turned upside down but after almost 4 years my friends living the same life...

When i ask myself why? I remember my friend Roberto...he lost his wife more than 20 years ago, very young...we tried to comfort him at the time, but for anyone of us life simply went on

He didn't say a word at the time but i am sure he was in despair...

We did what we complain about others now...and without any questions about it!

Gwen i'm so sorry...it's very hard to always have pain...i know words are not powerful but i really wish you could get better and you may go home with your loving Mel hugs Roxi

What is unforgettable for me when i met him it was the feeling of finally being home.

The trust was immediate even before i met him, only hear his voice by phone.

That easiness was amazing and comfortable...for one like me always in guard!

I felt it was as if i known him forever, as we had crossed the space and time along the centuries  to find ourselves...so intense was the recognition! 

From the first moment i loved his tender eyes, his wonderful smile and laugh and all his body...to the point where when they tell me  i'll find him in spirit i turn up my nose!

'Cos the most beautiful tender comfortable place i found in this world was being in his arms close tight to him!

I like to think that i'll find him in other lives, under other skies...

20 hours ago, kayc said:

If George were here, we could weather anything together!  It's very different facing everything alone.

How true Kay !😔

Enza one of the things helped me in the early grief was trying to change perspective...

think of what you had with your husband...not only what you lose! We take everything for granted and life is not so predictable...

It's only a little advice, a trick to lessen raw pain...grief is a working in progress, you can try it sometimes...

It did works for me, not always...some days nothing works! But you will learn little by little what can help you along the way...

9 hours ago, Gwenivere said:

there isn’t anyway to avoid sorrow.  If there were, none of us would be here.  

Thanks Gwen to take time to give me a good advice...

I'm resigned to always feeling pain for him....and how it could be otherwise ?

He was my love my soulmate my everything...i recognized him immediately when we met!

What scares me now it's about losing that little balance i've achieved 'cos i want too much see him arrive with his wonderful smile...

This can free again the despair of his absence!

A big hug Roxi

6 hours ago, scba said:

Our best friend gave me a scrapbook with pictures to make a personal book about his life.

Yes i did it as well...but i'm now unable to look at the photos 'cos i feel an intense desire to see him again right now!

I can't not stand the frustration....so i avoid photos video mails...anything!

I want avoid sorrow😔

5 hours ago, kayc said:

This is the place I found 16 1/2 years ago, just three weeks after losing my George. 

Thanks Kay...you were lucky! I found that site a year after i lose my Giorgio..(.i feel a connection with you as our loved ones had the same name😂!) And then they ruined everything changed the site and made me upset...luchily i found other sites and others nice people...i read some articles wrote by your friend Marty...she's great!