hello teny, I understand you completely, I believe the others aswell.. this topic name is why is getting harder and I would like to say my experience about it...for me , now, after 5 months is the hardest period, I'm in depression , I became aware it was not a nightmare, it was real , he is really gone..and what now? for last 5 days I don't go to work, I can't do anything or see anyone..I just lay down in my bed and stare at TV ...I have a cold but nothing serious, in normal circumstances I would certainly go to work... now I know what is a real depression / not that I wanted to know /, but in some period of my life I thought I had one..but not even close...ok, good news! I discovered I'm not a depressed person..what a relief ( just joking )... I never can't imagine my life without him..and now my life without him is reality and nothing and nobody can't change it..I always had an answer ..and now...what is the answer now???? I know nobody can give me the one and I know everything i'm going through is normal ..but it so hard that sometimes I think I couldn't handle it..that is a battle between my head and my heart..I loved him so much..and I still love him..