Not sure if I am just going through a phase, but seems that nobody can help but I appreciate your thoughtful words. By the way, I am 59 there is another newcomer here that is 51. Losing everything in Katrina was the worst thing that ever happened to us. We left MS on Saturday and by the next week we had a new life, with new friends, just like the old life was a dream - but we had each other and he pointed out daily the positive exciting things that had changed for the better - like all the new restaurants we would never have had the chance to sample if it were not for Katrina.... We had evacuated so many times before and nothing happened, so we got indifferent. We didn't pack the way we did in the beginning and while I saved the computers and many other things that were special, there is only so much that the car can hold. If I had known that he would die suddenly just a few months later, I would have made sure that we had the videos and photos but nothing can be done now. I thought in the beginning that if I could just leave that place where I was alone after he died and get with my family that everything would be okay. After 2 weeks, I went back to MS to stay with my daughter in a FEMA trailer and figured out really quickly that it wasn't working and I wasn't any better - mind you there were 7 of us in that trailer. I moved then to his daughter's house in Louisiana, and found the same pain was still there. Next it was to my stepmoms in Houston, stayed a week and I moved on to Dallas to be with a friend - that didn't last long either, now I am in San Diego. I have finally figured out that the pain is coming from the inside and has nothing to do with my surroundings, so running won't help. My mom and some of my children live here and while they are trying to help, mostly they have moved on and will be happy when I do the same. I think I make them uncomfortable, and I know they just want me to be okay. If I need to cry, there is only my car - I really miss having a home, but I now know that that wouldn't make much difference either. San Diego is where we met 20 years and 9 months ago and the memories are everywhere, I will be glad when I can smile and embrace them, but the time is not now.