Hi Suzanne,
This will be my first post to this. So if I somehow muddle it, I apologize. Saturday the 24th was 3 months since my husband passed away. I just now started reaching out to people, as I thought I can do it! And I thought that I could do it by myself. Wow, what a rude awakening. I have 4 kids, all of them under the age of 18, and now they do not have a dad. I have also said to myself, what is the point of moving forward. I wrapped my life in this person, he was my world, and somehow I don't have him anymore. I am angry. I have to wake up everyday, and I can tell you, I don't do it for myself, I do it for my kids. Because I have my children, I think that is the only reason God decided to not take me yet. I don't know if he has something in store for me, but I can tell you, there has been many nights when I pray to both God and my husband to take me, so I can rejoin my husband, because that is how my life was supposed to go.
I will never be happy, I will never have my life, and I will never be able to touch my husband, or hear his voice, or nag him because he was too loud, or abnoxious. I can never tease him, or tell him, "Don't forge the milk on your way home," and I can never call him Jonathan without hearing him tell me, "that is not my name". I have had to do birthdays now without him, our anniversary was a week after he passed, and I can't tell you what I did that day.
I loathe seeing people holding hands, or I cringe when I see a baby girl or boy holding tight to who I think is their father.
My life will never be the same. I will never be the same. I always ask myself "what would John do?" When I think I know the answer, I do just that. I live my life one minute at a time, and there have been plenty of minutes that I pray and wish I had died instead of him. We were both in the car, but I survived. I am truly angry at that.
I have no words for you, just what everyone else tells me, which doesn't help me, but that time does go on, and you have to find a new normal.
I thank God everyday for my kids. That is the only thing that keeps me going.
Sorry for the pain you are enduring
Alicia