Our cats that are referred to as the babies, and the dog, which is a "little boy in a dog's outfit". Working around the yard, hiking, early morning walks, travel, and fishing when I get to do it.
You are right. One is never prepared. I dealt with Jeff's illness for 12 years. The day he passed was still a shock. No instruction book, but hopefully we all learn, deal and move on to a calmer happier place by being here for each other.
