drtondalia

I can relate to you and your wife. I lost my son, Quran Cliett age 7, this last fathers day. We were at the beach. I tried to save my son yet I just couldn't get to him. I know the powerlessness your wife must be feeling because she was right there. I feel like I failed my son. At his wake I kept up a good front to our family and friends. I even had myself fooled into to thinking that I had accepted what had happened as an accident and was OK. Yeah right. A week later it hit me hard while in my office at work. Now here I sit a month and a half later and I still have spells each day. I think counseling would probably be the best choice for you and your family. It is my next step. Good Luck!!

Hi All, I lost my son this last father’s day. We were on the beach in Ocean City NJ. I take my children to this beach almost every weekend in the summers. I would have never thought in a million years that I would leave that beach with one less child. I had four children that morning; three boys and my baby girl. Quran was the middle of the three boys. I tried to save him but I just couldn't get to him. The water was too strong. I feel like I failed my son. I feel like I took him there and let him die. I do think it is my fault. I go over and over in my mind about how I should have run faster, swam faster. But the end result is that I can not fix this. I feel hollow. There is a pain and a void within me. It is a pain that I can't put into words. I just know that it starts in my center and radiates. I miss hearing his voice. I keep trying to replay it in my mind. I constantly look at pictures of him. At times, I can't stop crying. I miss him so much.