On Friday June 24, 2016. My middle first-cousin via my paternal aunt. Died unexpectedly. My cousin was a chain smoker. So I initially thought that her death was due to a stroke from her smoking. Our grandmother(the mother of my father, and her mother) died from a stroke due to her smoking. She was only 59 when she died. My cousin was only 40yrs.-old when she died.
I have survivors guilt. My survivors guilt is because, I am 49yrs.-old and have had three (physical) neurological health problems all my life. I was born with a Brain Aneurysm. Which in turn, caused Hydrocephalus. The needed brain surgeries for those two, caused Epilepsy. None of them has a cure, only temporary-stop measures.
Our grandfather died in 1991. I was 24. My younger brother was 22, and cousins were respectively 18, 16, and 13. All five of us weren't without tears when speaking at our grandfather's funeral. The difference between then and now is generational. With my cousin's death, it is the same generation. Which makes her death, generationally closer to home.
She was the middle of my three first-cousins'. I have been crying daily ever since. I miss her dearly.