We have pets. We took in rescue animals and as many as we could care for at one time and gave them forever homes 'til their lives ended - making room for a home for another homeless animal. The ones we have now are very old - all except for one, but my husband was very sick for a long time and as he weakened, caring for the animals became more and more my job. We realized we had more than we could care for, but chose to stick it out and just not take in anymore. It was very, very hard for me to care for him, our home, yard and the pets, while working full time during the last year that he was just getting worse and worse. We were looking into moving to an apartment and even had considered having the old dogs put to sleep, so our lives (mostly mine) could be more bearable. But now, even tho' the pets take up most of my time, it is not as hard as it was. They give me comfort because he loved them and they loved him. And they seem extra thankful now that he's gone that I'm still here with them. That is something good. I don't expect most of them to live more than a year or two, but will continue to care for them 'til then. That's just the way we are (were). Some people have told me to start 'thinning out' the pets. I won't do that - can't handle more loss right now. Besides - those 'some people' have no idea what they're talking about. I've been given a lot of 'advice' by people who want to 'tell' me what I should do while all at the same time, not willing to lift a finger to actually help me with anything. Guess, as I'm learning to try to connect to other people - I can clearly see those that it would be better to steer clear of or eliminate from my world all together. I like your comment, kayc, that 'we have to do what feels comfortable to us and balancing between pushing beyond our comfort zone and giving ourselves time to get through this in a way that is right for us'. That's good grounding to remember. I never did let other people's ideas about what I should do matter much - I think that's a part of me I just found I still have and can keep. Thank you, kayc