Decluttering? Letting go of personal belongings?
Over the weekend I started to declutter the master bathroom Sarah and I shared. As well as decluttering the walk in closet we shared. Her side of the family (siblings) came to Alabama for the service / funeral for her and Noah. I let her sisters take whatever clothes out of her closet they wanted. They didn't take much, so there is still a lot left to find a place for. Today has been 3 weeks since they passed. Some are saying its too soon for me to begin the cleaning out process. But to be truthful, seeing my wife's belongings bring me more pain than not seeing them. This past weekend, I downsized from the king bed we once shared to a queen. I just couldn't sleep in that bed without her. Since I got the new bed - I have slept much better.
I still cannot go into my sons room and I will not let anyone else go in there. His door is locked. I know for sure I am not ready to tackle his personal things. He was a child. It's too painful. If I don't have to look at it, it doesn't bother me as much. However, with Sarah's things its different. Her things are everywhere and I have to look at them every single day. I feel like I am ready to part with most of her clothes / toiletries. I am ready to clean her night stand off. I am ready to make our bedroom MY bedroom.
I am not the kind of person that holds onto things. Sarah was quiet the opposite. She held onto evrything, sentimental or not. She still has clothes in the closet that she wore 10 years ago. Me? I have about 10 shirts and 10 pairs of pants / shorts and 2 or 3 pairs of shoes. I don't feel the need to accumulate "stuff". I am pretty basic, plain Jane kind if you will.
Am I moving about this too soon?