43 years of marriage married on the 2nd of September 1974 and Colin passed away December 2017 with Mastastic prostate cancer and diabetes. The reactions of others have been as though that grief is a minor timetable but there isn't any timetable of losing a spouse. Being gentle with one self is vital. To go to a funeral just 10 months after Colin passed away to others I was selfish not to go, and also said that I am the worse widow on earth to go on with my grief. Criticism is cruel. When married that long of 43 years is a big part of my life and I love and miss him a lot. I have been married for 43 years and did a lot of things together with him having one son who now is 37 in November. Others don't realise what is like to be a big part of their lives till they have passed away never come home again peeping around the corner at you. Losing a spouse is not the same as losing a parent. If you ad up to what you do with a spouse you would come up with the answer. I mean you have children with your spouse, go on vacations, eat at the dinner table when they come home tired, sleep together, and so ad up what you do with your spouse and you will come up with the answer. My son had 35 years with his Dad and complains about it. He often says that he drove him to the rail way station to go to school, work in the shed, play with him, and do so many things that isn't there for others to notice as they take it all for granted. It's best not to take this for granted as you will miss them when they are gone.
