I lost my mother in February this year. I know where you're coming from. One of my cousins told me that it's okay I'll get over it but I should think about how difficult it is for my father. She told my newly married sister in law that she has always seen my parents together so she knows how my father feels better than my sister in law. My SIL is already upset that she never got to spend anytime with my mother since she died within 15 days of my brother's marriage.
Now I have supported my father as much as I can but that isn't going to lessen my pain. I lost the person I was closest to in the world.
One of my friends made fun of my looks when I posted a picture of an infant me, with my brother and mother. I told him to know the time and place for jokes and he kept asking what's wrong with me. He guessed that it must be because of my mother but he just seemed pissed that I got mad.
These people won't ever get your pain until it doesn't happen to them. Even the most well meaning people can come off as jerks because they don't know how to react in such a situation.
