WendyJ

Okay now I am so confused, if they are shielded from the bad then why do we bother to speak to them as they are not hearing us. Like if I was upset about not knowing how to fix something or having a rough time and needed Steve to guide me or just talking to him while I am crying does that mean he doesn't hear me? If he only sees me when I am happy then he may think I am not even bothered by loosing him. If they can be around us and we can sense them then what are they seeing if they are not seeing us sitting there crying etc. Am I making any sense as I am having a hard time exlaining what I mean.

Wendy

Kay,

I have a question for you. You mentioned in your post that when you go to heaven there will be peace and no more pain and no more sorrow. So does that mean when I sit here day after day and cry and cry and talk to my husband and beg him to please communicate with me or to please be with me and help me to go on alone that he does not witness my pain? In other words do you feel that they can hear us and wish they could comfort us and feel bad that we are going through this? Can they look down upon us and see how much we miss them and need them? Oh dear am I making any sense?

Wendy

I too start the waterworks within minutes of getting in my car to drive home from work. That was always the time of day I could start to relax till the next day after work. Once I got home, Steve would already have the coffee going and we would sit together in the kitchen with our coffee and go through the mail and talk about our day and discuss what we were doing for dinner etc. It was "our time" to unwind from our busy day and it was the best time of the day. Now when I sit in the kitchen I look over at his empty chair and even though it has only been six months it seems like years since I saw him sitting there. What was once my best time of the day is now my worst time of the day.

Wendy

Hello everyone, I too am new here and I also lost my husband in March, actually on the 7th which was 6 months ago this past Friday. I am amazed that as I read alot of these posts, even though I am new that I have been doing a double take to make sure it wasn't my own post. I too wish I could age faster so it would be sooner to be with my Steve and then I think will I be with him again? DOes it really work that way? How do we know? I just know that the pain is too much and I am so tired of crying and puffy eyes and basically not living any more just surviving each and every day.

Wendy

I am so jealous that I have not had any simular experience of a visitation from my husband after being together for 34 years. All I keep saying to him is "Please just let me know you are okay and finally free of pain and it will help me to go on" and nothing. At times I get so frustrated that he has not contacted me in any way, do you believe that some people are receptive to it and some aren't or do you think maybe I am trying too hard?

Wendy

Karen,

I certainly do agree with you ! I lost my husband Steve very unexpectedly 6 months ago Friday to a blood clot to the heart after being together 34 years, I was only 15yrs old when we met. Anyhow I have 6 Japanese Chins who are the type to cling to humans, people always say I have a little train of 6 cars that follow me. But what they do at night now, and they started this the night he died is they completely surround me while I am sleeping. It is so touching and comforting to me, I don't know what I would do without them.

Wendy